Confessions

20 "How I Met Him"

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How I Met Him

Summer of 2006, as SA in one of the offices in UE Mla. I have an option to take summer classes at dahil may kabigatan ang BS Accountancy kahit gusto kong magbakasyon I always choose to take advance classes malaking kabawasan ang 4 minor subjects during regular semester, especially that I'm working from 5 to 9 PM. Yup, kami ang literal na nagsasarado ng Recto gate. Kaya naman I was so lucky na may naghihintay sa akin to walk me home.

And that was my Bestie, that time nag-o-OJT siya sa isang tv network in QC at may apartment din siyang nirerent in Quezon Ave. so he literally go out of his way para sunduin ako from Recto at ihatid sa Sta. Cruz. There were nights that we really walk para makapagkwentuhan. There were days that he drop by before going to his work para sabay kaming magbreakfast sa McDo Morayta. Kapag hindi niya ko masusundo he'll make sure na tatawagan niya ako exactly 9PM and he stays on the phone with me habang hindi ako nakakarating ng safe sa apartment namin. People around us always suspect na we're more than just friends and there were times na kahit ako nalilito na rin, because he always say "I love you" after every goodbye, we celbrated monthsaries & anniversaies. At sabi nung isang nanligaw sa akin na eventually tumigil din dahil sa kanya, wala daw makalapit sa akin kasi meron daw "nakabakod". At first I was okay sa pagiging over protective niya kasi nga naisip ko wala pa naman akong plan mag-boyfriend, dahil kagaya ng napakaraming girls from the province who are studying in Manila our parents make us promise na "no diploma, no boyfriend".😊 But then hindi pala okay ang lahat, especially ng meron na siyang ligawang ibang girl. Of course his priorities changed at dahil "bestfriend" niya ako I have to adjust because he expected that I always understand. Kaso ang unfair lang diba, kasi ayaw niya akong paligawan pero siya nag-girlfriend siya ng napakabilis. It sucks lalo na nung pinagseselosan ako ng gf niya, we can't stay on the phone more than five minutes. Hindi na rin niya ko sinusundo from school and no more pancakes and hot chocolate for breakfast. His text messages now only ends with "take care" no more "I love you", well I can live with those changes. But it really hit me hard nung pati yung monthly bonding namin every 27th of the month wala na kasi ayaw ng gf niya. So nung pakiramdam ko nagiging panggulo na ako sa relationship nila kasi literal na inaaway na ako ng gf niya, I just decided to severe my ties with him. Diba kapag bestfriend dapat walang ganon, pero mahirap naman din maging MH ako sa kaligayahan nila. So I started to stay away from him by changing my phone number. At dahil hindi pa ganon kalala ang invation ng FB sa buhay namin that time, no text messages & no phone calls can be equivalent to blocking someone in FB today.

Nakakatawa, para akong tanga feeling ko nakipagbreak ako sa first "unofficial" boyfriend ko.😂 And as I changed my number dahil kailangan kong mag-move on I crossed path with another "friend". And dahil ayaw ko ng maulit yung nangyari kay Bestie I made clear with this new "friend" bawal ang "I love you" sa text. Imagine how ideotic that was, telling someone not to say "I love you" to you. Pero ganon eh, tanga-tangahan lang ang drama ko that time. And maybe dahil don sa sinabi ko this guy thought what I was looking for is a fling, pano ko nasabi? It is on how he drives our conversation, he's sweet and all at kung wala akong kapatid na lalake at naging kaibigang lalake baka napaikot niya ako sa mga salita niya because he's a real player, a "pro" if there is such. So why I entertained him, well it's liberating to talk to someone who has a different views and our set up makes me think that I am in control, kahit ang totoo hindi naman.

This guy is a bit rebellious, family issues, but he's doing well naman in school. He's smart and charming kaya nga siguro kahit total opposites kami we still click. And we agreed that we'll make our summer more "fun". And he ramain true to that promise, he made my summer super exciting. One time he surprised me, he went to UE at para makapasok sabi niya sa guard mag-i-enquire siya kaso he ended up calling me kasi nagkaligaw-ligaw siya sa loob ng campus. The connecting bridge between CBA and CE building is where I found him, he hugged me nung makita niya ko para siyang batang nawawala then finally nakita yung mommy niya. My summer class went that way, we sneak out after my duty at work and "explore" our dark sides as discreet as possible. Kung hindi ko sinabi sa kanya to refrain telling me "I love you" I can say na yun na lang ang kulang plus the label to make our relationship official. But then my pride is overpowering, so we settle to no label status until one day something came up to me na ako na yung natakot and I found out na hindi pa sila officially break nung gf niya sa province nila. And did I mention that we have a common causin na super close sa amin pareho and who introduced us to each other? So there, you might have an idea, kung bakit natakot din ako if someone would find out what's going on between us. So yun palit sim card ulit, which leads me to meeting "The One".

He is 5 years younger than me and he's really not my type. Jologs ang porma pati ang salita, so no one would expect that I'll end up with him. But what makes me fall for him? He makes me forget about time, we can talk the whole night about random topics without making me feel bored, it feels like I'm talking with my bestfriend. However, he can be so direct without sounding offensive when we have different views just like the other "friend" I had. Some may say baka nafall ako sa kanya kasi nakita ko sa kanya yung personality ni Bestie at ni "friend" but that's not quite. Kasi hindi nga siya nakarating kahit minsa sa UE to pick me up, we always meet up somewhere but not in UE. So what's the deal with him? He stood up for me and he never let me go. Nagsimula siyang manligaw ng last week of May 2006 tanda ko pa kasi patapos na ang summer class non. Then sinagot ko siya before I graduated in 2008. And I marry him in 2011. There were times that I want to break up with him just like what I did with the other two before him, pero he always, as in always, find a way para pakalmahin ako and make me choose to stay. And now we are almost seven years together.

Funny thing before we get married in 2011. My former Bestie wanted to "reconnect" and even asked me out on a date, telling me na he regretted what he did na sana hindi niya ako pinagpalit sa ibang babae and he still considers me as his bestfriend. And my other "friend", messaged me as well, asking if I'm sure with my decision. I'm still young pa daw, that time nasa Dubai siya as project Engineer and he even asked me if I consider working there may vacancy daw kasi sa company nila for accountants and willing siyang sponsoran ako so I can go there as soon as possible kahit tourist visa muna. And later on nalaman ko, ikinwento pala ng pinsan ko sa kanya na ikakasal na ako the following month. Yung totoo, anong meron sa mga lalake na parang natitrigger bigla kapag nalaman nilang magpapakasal na yung "ex" nila? I said "NO" to both of them thinking that the chapter of my life with them ended in summer 2006.

So girls, hindi masamang makipag-bestie sa lalake as long as you know how to handle your expectations and never ever assume unless you both agree na you will level up your relationship. Kasi mahirap na baka maiwan ka ring nganga like me.😅 And if you want to explore your dark side, make sure you do it "responsibly". Meaning wala dapat masisirang kinabukasan, your priorities must remain intact and your principles in life untarnished. Bigay mo muna sa parents mo yung diploma then walwal all you want pag may work ka na. And lastly this applies to both boys & girls, walang perfect man/woman marami kang makikilala but none of them is "perfect" pero ang mahalaga yung pipiliin mo pipiliin ka rin. Kasi kapag alam mo that you both choose to stick together kahit pa may mga problemang dumating you will both stay dahil alam niyo sa sarili niyo na ginusto niyo yon. Love is a decision that you have to choose everyday hindi yan nakabase sa kilig kasi yung kilig lumilipas.

P.S.
Yung last sim card na pinalitan ko nung umiiwas ako kay "friend" napulot ni "The One". Coinsidence, fate or destinty, call it whatever you want but that's how I met him.

Quick-witted Rebel
Business Administration
2008
UEMnl
College