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Eighty-Nine

Advice Request
This person is afraid of what people may think of them.

Answered Submission
The problem with caring about what people think is that it can lower your self esteem and cloud your identity. There is no way I can sit here and tell you to not let it bother you because I know that won't fix your problem. Learning to turn your cheek to other peoples' abuse is more than just a click of your fingers. And in most cases, a part of you will always kind of be bothered by other peoples' judgments, and that is completely normal.

As human beings, belonging is something we seek desperately in life. We want to be accepted, and, if we aren't, it can cause us to think lowly of ourselves. Anyone who doesn't like you can keep walking. Someone who doesn't want to belong in your life isn't suppose to be around you in the first place. You'll meet great friends if you don't have any now, and those are the people that will support you. Everybody else can stay in their own lane. Not everybody is going to like you, and it's okay if you're not happy with that, as long as you learn to live with it.

Hope this helped!

The Advice Column Team