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A=affection, how affectionate are they? how do they show affection?
I think we could all probably agree she is not very affectionate. She both doesn't see the point and is not used to it. Once you two are dating or have established that you feel the same way, she doesn't really see the point in being super affectionate with you. She is obviously slightly more open, more attentive with you than anyone but if you know how she feels why should she have to prove it to you constantly for some trivial idea about being a couple that society indulges in? Wednesday knows how she feels, and she knows you know how she feels. Anything/anyone else is irrelevant. That being said, if you would like her to be more affectionate you will have to explain exactly what you would like, or how she could show her feelings. It'll be slow, but she will attempt to incorporate your advice into your relationship.
B=best friend, what would they be like as a best friend? how would the friendship start?
We've all seen, and became very jealous of, the way she is with Enid (I am well aware most fans see this friendship as romanic but for these headcanons I'm using it as a friendship). Wednesday often misses cues and regular "friend activities" pass her by. Much like the way she shows affection, if she has no interest in things you want to do she simply won't-you guys are friends, why involve herself in mundane tasks just so you can say you're friends? Much like Enid did, your friendship with Wednesday would likely start by just inserting yourself into her life as much as possible; you can see she does somewhat enjoy having friends and companions, it's just the societal expectations of upholding any kind of relationships that mainly holds her back. So stick with her and you'll end up with some sort of loyal black widow friend.
C=cuddles, do they like to cuddle? how would they cuddle?
Short answer is no. Wednesday Addams is not a cuddler. I think a lot of us would like to think that behind closed doors and away from prying eyes she melts into your arms, but unfortunately that's not the case. It's not that she doesn't like you, that she doesn't want to show you how much you mean to her, cuddling just makes her uncomfortable. However, once you guys have been together for quite a while, when you guys are pretty steady with each other and she's let her guard down around you more-she starts to sleep on her side with you. While she usually finds all the comfort she needs laying on her back with her hands on her chest, funeral style, some nights she finds herself wanting to turn towards you. You two don't really touch when sleeping in the same bed (even though that happens much more often than not these days), but this small display shows her trust and devotion to you. Very very occasionally, she will turn away from you and it makes your heart flutter because it shows just how much she trusts you. like a cat.
D=domestic, do they want to settle down? how are they at cooking and cleaning?
As we heard from the main woman herself, she'll never be a housewife or any such thing. It is pretty clear to you that she has never been and will never be someone who had a partner criteria list, who wanted to be married by a certain age and have kids by a certain age. Again, she doesn't really understand/feel the need to prove your affection to each other. It's much more likely that when you both graduate Nevermore, you'll simply find an apartment together. Fun fact, you were actually slightly nervous about your relationship outside of the school-what if she wanted to leave this/you behind with her days in education? What if she planned her career/life after school already and it doesn't include you?? None of this even occurred to Wednesday in fact, she had just correctly assumed you would be living together in the future. She manages to reassure you on this front quite by accident, as one day she walks up to you and plants her phone in your face and goes "This has a basement measuring 600 square feet, and two fridges built in. You need not fret about seeing any dismembered parts anymore." And that's how you learned she was basically house hunting. For you both.
E=ending, if they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?
I know it appears as though she would be quite unfeeling about this sort of thing (see "for some reason I cannot fathom or indulge you seem to like me", the conversation after she tells Tyler her and Xavier are attending the Rave'N), but if you and her had been in a relationship for some time and problems begun to arise or things just weren't working out, she would be more sensitive about it. Slightly, anyway. Not for her sake, she knows what she's saying and what will happen, but after all the time you two have spent together she is well aware you may be more delicate than she about the situation. If you breakdown in floods of tears, she will not know what to do-but still cares about you enough that she will fetch Enid, most likely, to comfort you, and apologise.
F=fiance(e), how do they feel about commitment? how quick would they want to get married?
Wednesday isn't really fussed about marriage. If asked, she will talk about how it is an archaic tradition centred around the subjugation of women and meaningless patriarchal values. She has never thought of marrying, and does not see herself as someone who will suddenly fall in love and just have to marry her SO. If you are set on marrying, and are very enthusiastic about marrying her one day, chances are 50/50 that it won't happen, or if it did it would be because Wednesday realises the benefits-such as legal forms, health insurances, mortgages etc. She cannot reconcile with the idea that maybe one day something would happen but she would not be able to be in the ambulance/your hospital room simply because you are not legally joined. She can't deny though a part of her does revel in the idea that you are bound to her, til death do you part. You hold a claim over each other.
G=gentle, how gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?
She is very very gentle whenever she touches you, but it is more because they're tentative touches than she is trying to be gentle. She is unsure about casually touching you, what you may like, what is acceptable etc so she tests the waters very slowly at first. When she is more sure and you guys are more comfortable with each other, she still doesn't touch you very much since that's just her nature but she's less hesitant when she does. Emotionally, she is definitely much more gentle after you're together than when you first meet her. very very occasionally she tells you when she likes something you're doing/something you say to her, and she makes more of an effort to leave out morbid facts/stories/threats if she realises they make you uncomfortable.
H=hugs, do they like hugs? how often do they do it? what are their hugs like?
As we also saw with Enid in episode 8, Wednesday usually reserves hugs for the they are well and truly needed. Most of the time when they happen it's because she can see you really need it, and that makes it easier for her to lean into the hug just knowing that it's helping you. Her hugs can be somewhat stiff and she always runs quite cold, but over time you find yourself desiring that from an embrace. She also always puts her arms over yours, around your shoulders/neck while yours go around her waist/stomach. After a while, you realise that, with some surprise, her face is always buried in your neck or your hair when you hug like this. She can't explain why she seems to want to do this if you do hug.
I=I love you, how fast do they say the L word?
After a very very very very very long time. Quite honestly there's a large chance that she will never say it to you. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you, she is simply confident in the measure of her feelings toward you, and is aware that you know how she feels. If you say it to her, there's a pretty decent chance that you'll get a stilted "Okay, noted" or just "Thank you for alerting me to the fact." If love is mentioned when she's near, you will likely hear about the negative aspects of love, or why it's a simple chemical process that people delude themselves with.
J=jealousy, how jealous do they get? what do they do when they're jealous?
Wednesday doesn't really get jealous, it's just not in her nature. She trusts you, and it doesn't make a bit of sense to her why you would be active in pursuing a relationship of any sort with herself if you became interested in anyone else. Enid asked her one time why she doesn't get jealous, since she seems to care about you a great deal? She simply replied that "[They] have me, and I'm with [them]-nothing else need concern me." It wasn't brought up again.
K=kisses, what are their kisses like? where do they like to kiss you? where do they like to be kissed?
It surprises her a great deal, how much she enjoys kissing you. You're not the type of couple to be sitting in the quad making out obviously, and you don't really tend to kiss each hello or goodbye constantly either-but she finds herself liking the very occasional pecks you drop on her hand or temple if you're really feeling the need to kiss her with people around. Again, operating within the perameters that she is romantically/sexually attracted to you, you guys sometimes make out away from other people-usually in either of your rooms, or on a trip to the crypt maybe. It's not a hugely common occurrence, but does happen more than you thought it might when you started dating. Wednesday approached kissing you the same way she approached things like fencing and playing her cello etc, in that she carefully learned-and is now quite confident in her ability kissing you. Wednesday also finds herself pleased with the sight of your lips slightly swollen or bitten from kissing her, comparing the colour to different minor wounds-a high compliment.
L=little ones, how are they around children?
Wednesday isn't necessarily bad with children, she's just not the coddling type and doesn't see the point in cooing at babies, playing peekaboo or giving them stuffed toys. In general, if she's in a public place and there just happen to be children or babies around, she mostly just ignores them-doesn't dislike and doesn't like them really. If, some way into the future, her friends or maybe Pugsley ended up having children, she again wouldn't specifically like or dislike them, but would likely give them toy/wooden daggers or throwing stars or something, and offer to train them/teach them skills she learned as a child; fencing, safe dismemberment, how to hide a body, how to perform an autopsy etc. Safe to say you guys won't have kids.
M=morning, how are mornings spent with them?
Relatively quietly and separately, if you guys have gotten to the stage where you're sharing a room or sleeping in the same bed. It's most likely a "Good morning." and then getting ready separately. Breakfast is also usually a quiet affair, probably telling each other your schedule for the day and maybe making plans for the evening.
N=night, how are nights spent with them?
Much like your mornings together, a lot of the time you and Wednesday simply do your own things in each others company. One of her favourite ways to spend her time is doing whatever she has planned while you maybe read your book or something near her. Often, no words are exchange for a few hours. Serial killer documentaries are watched together regularly though, with Wednesday piping up every now and then to tell you how they could have improved and actually gotten away with their crimes.
O=open, when would they start revealing things about themselves? do they say everything all at once or wait to reveal things slowly?
Wednesday reveals things very very slowly. Getting to know her is like solving some great mystery, and you only ever know exactly what she would like you to know. It's not necessarily that she doesn't trust your or anything, she absolutely does, she just has very clear boundaries for herself. Unfortunately, it sometimes doesn't even occur to her that you may have similar boundaries/hold ups. She will do whatever she wants to get to know you, or find out something she's curious about-think her breaking into Xavier's shed, or barging into Kinbott's office, and confronting them both. If you explicitly say to her that something she has done/found out about you makes you uncomfortable and you would like stricter boundaries, she will absolutely enforce them.
P=patience, how easily angered are they?
She's pretty patient to be honest, though it usually depends on the situation. Sometimes you worry that you may have annoyed or upset her, but it hasn't even crossed her mind, some things are so trivial to her she doesn't get why you think it would even bother her. Sometimes she gets a bit annoyed if you maybe try and distract her during her writing hour or something, but she's never really mad or anything. The only times she's ever been furious with you are the few times you almost sacrificed yourself for her/your friends, or endangered yourself somehow. Though, this does work out for the best because after she got mad at you, you ripped right into her asking why is it okay for her to constantly walk into danger but not you? She toned it down a bit afterwards, and now often requests your company on dangerous excursions (she insists it's so you can spread out and cover more ground or corner suspects, but you both know it's so you can face any danger back to back).
Q=quizzes, how much would they remember about you? do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?
Wednesday Addams has terrific memory, almost unparalleled. She remembers every single detail about you-if she wished she could remember everything about everyone she knows but she discards most of it as useless knowledge, taking up space in her valuable mind. But the more she learns about you and the closer you two get, the more she finds herself devoting quite a lot of her memory skills to remembering aspects of you. However, she doesn't really do anything with all of this knowledge. She takes great pleasure in knowing pretty much everything about you (after you guys have been together for quite a long time, she starts spouting random facts about you mixed in with her factoids about murder and mayhem. "Oh hey Ajax I think a moth just landed on your shoulder-" "Luna moths only live for one week, and spend much of their limited lifespan vomiting to deter predators. [They] saw one during a summer vacation as a child." Everyone else just eventually accepts this, and now knows many a strange fact about you.) but it doesn't really occur to her to use what she knows about you to plan a date or buy you gifts or anything-you're well aware that for the long time you've been dating, Enid, Xavier, Bianca and Ajax quiz Wednesday on you around holidays and anniversaries and then basically plan a date for you guys.
R=remember, what is their favourite moment in your relationship?
The first few times you guys were on your own after becoming...closer, she was unsure what was expected. She was writing her novel and you were reading in an armchair but-did you want to do things conventional couples do? Did you want to go somewhere? Did she need to ask you something? Was she expected to entertain you? This happened a few times, and then one day you suddenly broke the silence-"Forgive me, Wednesday, I know you like silence and no distractions while you write but I just wanted to tell you-I'm so glad we don't have to do anything, yknow? Lots of people want to talk all the time or...or they just have to be doing something! I love that this works perfectly for us, that you can enjoy your work and I can enjoy your company while I read. Anyway-I'm so sorry you can go back to your writing now of course-". Wednesday is unaware that it's your favourite moment of your relationship too; it's the first time she fully smiled at you.
S=security, how protective are they? how would they protect you? how would they like to be protected?
This one is tough to say, since Wednesday is both not protective and veryyyyyy protective over you. Say you guys are in the quad, or out and about somewhere and some guy starts hitting on you, right? She ignores them. They don't matter, and have no relevance to either her or you. She's also fully aware you can handle yourself in any situation like that-quite frankly, she wouldn't like having to be protective over you all the time, and would see someone who needs that as weak. However, let's say you helped her take down Crackstone and maybe there's a point where he's about to kill you or has severely injured you-then she gets very very protective. Best ways I can describe this are comparing it to "The only one who gets to torture my brother is me", and when she rebuffs/shuns Xavier for eight episodes straight-then takes an arrow for him.
T=try, how much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?
Initially, almost zero effort if we're honest here. Is your time spent together not enough? For a while when you start getting closer/the beginning of your relationship she isn't exactly sure where you guys stand on gift giving or anniversary events etc, and is reluctant to throw herself into it in case it backfires or negatively affects the progress you guys are making. After a while, and after paying very close attention to your interests, like and dislikes (see Q for quizzes), she starts to give you extremely thoughtful gifts. They are wrapped in matte black paper, with a black ribbon around them, and usually just left on your desk or bed for you to find. Often they consist of things like small taxidermied creatures, large spiders or the like, whose traits reminded her of you-maybe tickets to the new horror movie you guys haven't seen yet, or accessories/clothing that screamed 'you' (likely still black though, she quite likes the colour on you.)
U=ugly, what would be some bad habits of theirs?
She doesn't alert you to her presence a lot of the time, which means you've had approximately 173 heart attacks after just padding into the kitchen to get a snack and finding her silently there like the Blair witch. One that bothers you a bit more, understandably, is when you open the fridge or freezer and find...parts...of something. She's not a barbarian she obviously keeps them in a separate draw/section, one without food, everything properly wrapped or contained (she wouldn't want to contaminate her experiments/projects with anything else stored in there) but she doesn't warn you a lot of the time-you broke a few plates by dropping them in shock at the beginning of your relationship but now you try not to look at...the draw.
V=vanity, how concerned are they with their looks?
Eh, Wednesday isn't really bothered. She's aware people, especially you, find her very attractive. It's never been a big concern of hers, how she looks, but she does prefer to be presentable and put together-she also realises after your relationship begins to develop a bit more that she is actually quite pleased that you find her attractive, and she subconsciously choose outfits you've complimented with more frequency than others. In the morning she does also actually enjoy going about her routine, and putting in her signature plaits; it kind of relaxes her in a way.
W=whole, would they feel incomplete without you?
Wednesday Addams is a firm believer that she is whole on her own and doesn't need anyone else to complete her. That being said, (bfu crowd rise up) she doesn't like the feeling she gets when something reminds her of you, or she sees something she would have bought you. Her life goes on as normal and she doesn't outwardly show anything, but she can feel something has changed a bit. If you're just on holiday or visiting family, she often doesn't even notice how long you're gone.
X=extra, a random head canon for them.
She gets so wrapped up in cases or just school work sometimes that she can forget to eat, in which case you usually bring her food and surprisingly it's this that gives her those so called "butterflies" more than anything else. Her mind suddenly gets a little bit scrambled, thinking of you looking out for her, realising she must not have eaten, going in search of food, picking something you know she'll like and then coming all this way just to make sure she eats. Wednesday knows you guys don't have a very conventional relationship, and that even though this is exactly how she wants the relationship to play out, it would probably be much easier for you with someone else-it's why she thinks this act gets through to her the most, that you don't mind the effort, that you seem to like it in fact. You'd make that effort for her.
Y=yuck, what are some things they wouldn't like, either in general or in a partner?
She will endure some things that she either outright dislikes or couldn't care less about for you, but if you constantly wanted her to endure things like that she would leave. She also wouldn't be comfortable with a clingy partner, if you touch lots and are always extremely affectionate she finds that quite difficult to bear.
Z=zzz, what is a sleep habit of theirs?
She is eerily silent when she sleeps. Dead silent, you could say. After Crackstone, you've had a couple of bad nights where you had to check she was actually still alive. She told you that you shouldn't be concerned, and that she was somewhat insulted you think she would die in her sleep. Afterwards though, she lays in the same position but with her eyes open and fixed on some point above her, just until you've fallen asleep.