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Same cycle

Same cycle

"A key to a succeeding relationship is not finding the right person, but learning to love the person you found" because it is not a game for a trial and error.

A relationship has its same cycle. Mahal na mahal na mahal would turn to mahal nalang. I didn't say na mawawala na lahat pero may mga bagay na hindi na katulad ng dati. Nabawasan na kasi yung Euphoria sa tagal ng pinagsamahan. Ex.; Parang excitement sa bagong phone, todo ingat, sobrang saya dahil bago pero kapag naluma normal treatment nalang.

Sa relationship hindi mawawala yung iiyak ka, magagalit at masasaktan. But at this point, you might ask yourself "Mag i-stay pa ba 'ko? Nakakainis na siya eh. Ang pangit ng ugali niya." The disappointments, the anger would interfere the love.

Tapos iimaginin mo yung sarili mo with someone else. Someone na hindi ka sasaktan. Someone na hindi niya katulad. And this is a common reason of break-ups. Pag gi-give up agad kasi feeling mo, may makikilala kapang mas better sa kanya or worst, infidelity.

Sabihin na nating may nakilala ka ulit. Ibang iba sa past mo. MAS kesa sa kanya. And you would feel happy and loved. BUT after few months, years, you'd be in the same situation. Heartbreaks and disappointments nanaman.

So instead of looking for the right person at magpapalit palit ng karelasyon na parang pag papalit ng damit, then fail again and again, why not stick to the person you found and learn to accept his/her flaws? Hindi naman kasi palaging masaya eh. May times talaga na mapapasabi ka nalang ng "T*ngina ayoko na!"

Pero naisip mo bang masasabi mo rin ang linyang yan in the future sa bagong taong makikilala mo? Iba iba man ang ugali ng tao pero walang taong perpekto. Lahat nagkakamali. Lahat may kakayahan para saktan ka. Ang point dito, learn to forgive, learn to accept. Ipaglaban hangga't kaya pa.

BUT you have to know the boundaries of course. Boundaries na hindi katanggap tanggap, alam mo na yun at ibang usapan na yun. As long as yung actions nya ay hindi na pag papakita ng pagmamahal sayo and she/he never felt sorry about it, then leave. Hindi naman pwede yung ikaw nalang ang naka-kapit.

Hindi na relationship ang tawag dun kundi one sided love dahil ang relationship ay para sa dalawang tao na pareho ang nararamdaman para sa isa't isa.

FMDL
2011
Institute of Arts and Sciences (IAS)
FEU Manila