So I was talking with Ronnie earlier, and they brought up this tag and I thought it would be fun if we did it together!
I've tagged the questions above, and we decided to add in an eighth question at the end.
Enjoy this fun little thing about our qpr!
Question 1: Describe QPRs in a sentence or less. Ronnie: Super-Ultra-Mega-Best friendship. Grey: A cool committed super friendship that's way better than a romo relationship, just saying
Question 2: What are you and your partner's sexual and romantic orientation? Ronnie: I'm asexual and aromantic. Grey: I am asexual and quoiromantic, but I generally use aromantic as an umbrella term and tend to use it more often than quoiromantic.
Question 3: Is your QPR your highest priority relationship? Are all of your needs met by this relationship? Ronnie: For me, since I am not interested in having any romantic or sexual relarionship, this QPR is my highest priority reationship. That includes any type of platonic/family relationships. And yes, all my needs are met, since I don't need sex or romance. Grey: Well, our QPR is extremely important to me, and so I prioritize it over my other relationships. Platonic or family, it's my most important relationship. Since I'm acearo, all of my needs romantically and sexually are met, since I'm not really into either of those things. But even fundamentally, this relationship is the one that makes me feel the best about myself and the most supported.
Question 4: Is your relationship polyamorous or monogamous? Ronnie: I would consider our QPR to currently be monogamous. Grey: Our relationship is currently monogamous.
Question 5: Are you open to polyamory? If so, what would your polyamorous QPR look like? Ronnie: I am not opposed to polyamory, and I'd be willing to give it a try, but I don't feel like it's something that will probably happen for us. I think we're both comfortable and content with our QPR being monogamous. If we were to have a polyamorous QPR, I would imagine it would be more of a three way thing. Like a big circle where everyone loves everyone. Grey: I suppose I'm willing to give it a try, but like Ronnie said, I'm very much content with a monogamous relationship. It makes me more comfortable and secure in the relationship, but if someone were to come along that we mutually had a squish (a platonic crush) on and was willing to be in a QPR with us, I wouldn't be opposed. I think it would just end up being like a 'three peas in a pod' kind of relationship, and we'd end up being very close knit and just a big supportive circle of happiness.
Question 6: What would a long term QPR look like? Would it involve marriage, kids, etc.? Ronnie: I know we both definitely plan on having this QPR be long-term, and we hope to eventually move in together as adults. I know we will probably get 'married', but not really married. We'd do it for things like tax benefits and such, and mostly just to have a legal union bonding us. We wouldn't make it a huge deal really, no big ceremomy or anything. As for children, I don believe kids are a necessary thing we want. It's not our ultimate goal to adopt a child (neither of us want to get pregnant/give birth), though we most likely will once we are stable in our lives, to experience the joys of raising a kid together. Grey: Well, we've been in a qpr for about four months now, and I know during that time I've definitely thought about some kind of future together. I do see some kind of legal union, but I'm unsure really about whether I want kids. It's something that right now, I am really unsure, but I'll probably know better when I get older. I think it would be fun to raise a child together and be really awesome parents. I just see a bright and supportive future, and really hope that we can make it there.
Question 7: How did you initiate your QPR? (Were you both aware of the existence of QPRs?) Ronnie: This is quite a funny story, to me at least. I'll give some background on our knowledge of QPR's at the time. So, it was around mid October, and I had known what QPR's were already. I knew about them and what they were kinda like. Grey on the other hand, had just recently learned what they were. Our friendship at that point was exactly like a QPR, we considered ourselves to be like "mega bestfriends". So we talked about QPR's a little bit, since Grey had just been informed about them. We mutually agreed our friendship was pretty much a QPR, but we didn't directly say or ask to be in one. Then a few nights later, we were talking again, and Grey seemed nervous. So naturally, I asked what was wrong and then it led to them sending me this picture.
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So I said yes obviously, and it was very sweet and funny. Grey: Oh god. This is so cringy...
So, like Ronnie said, a few days before I actually asked them, I had just discovered what a qpr was and I just thought it was so cool. Like, omg. There is a name for the things I am feeling and it's amazing!So, I had invited them to come to a festival with me in our town, and as we were walking around, I was letting out all my nervous excited energy about it by gushing to them about my new discovery. We were laughing about it and how our relationship was basically like an unofficial qpr. I wanted to kind of see how they would react if I brought it up to them.
Later that night, I was really really nervous, because I wanted to ask them but I didn't know how. I got so nervous and saved the picture off of tumblr, and sent it to them quickly before basically running away from the kik app. Oh god my whole chest was fluttering and my hands were sweating so much.
But it all turned out amazingly and positive in the end.
Question 8: Any last thoughts on QPRs in general? Ronnie: I think QPR's are actually the swaggiest thing ever, purely because of the diversity of them. Me and Grey's QPR could be completely different than someone else's, and I find that really cool. Also, QPR's are for everyone of every orientation, (called quasi-platonic relationship for people who aren't queer) so if you find it to be an interesting thing you might wanna try, go for it! QPR's can be as romantic or platonic as you wish, or neither or both or whatever. They're just reALLY FUCKING COOL OKAY AND I LOVE THEM AND YOU TOO GREY (no romo), HOPE GREY'S READERS HAVE A FANTABULOUS DAY, LOVE YOU GUYS (Also, between you all and me, I think we all know I'm much swaggier than Grey. Thank you for your time, you may return to Narnia.) Grey: I think, like Ronnie said, that QPRs are cool in the sense that they don't have one set list of rules or expectations for you to follow. As partners, you two decide the limits to your relationship, and what things you are and aren't comfortable with. A relationship like this allows for a lot of communication and honesty, which I really value in a relationship. It's very open and usually very supportive, and I'm so thankful I found qprs and Ronnie and that we chose to be in one together. It's helped me through a lot of rough patches in the last four months, and I think it's something in my life that has given me comfort and hope and happiness. It's really been the greatest thing, and I'm so grateful to Ronnie and to you guys for supporting me and letting this happen. (Also, we all clearly know that I have way more swag ok don't listen to Mx. Rude Pants)
Well, that's it you guys! I hope you enjoyed this little fun thing and getting to know me and Ronnie a little more. It was a fun endeavor for the both of us.
