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Sad Girl Clapback: Why I Did It - Author Note

Sad Girl Clapback: Why I Did It – Author Note

I started writing again to heal myself – but I realized this therapy session had enough room to fit a few more friends.

Including you.

If I wrote for me – I wouldn't have posted my story online. I wrote because I knew girls were growing up with false narratives about women like I had.

That women were either damsels in distress or mean girls.

These false perceptions shaped us and warped our perceptions of women and how to treat them – we grew up seeing women as worthless, dirty and replaceable.

So, I thought I was too.

It was taking notice and bringing attention to the small papercuts I faced every single day; thinking in retrospect; looking back until I started to move forward.

I began talking about my experience, conversation lifted my thoughts off the ground and those thoughts spun into ideas and suddenly, I found myself in the eye of a hurricane;

Everything was spinning around me but rather than getting caught up in the storm, I stood in the middle of it all and could see why things happened and how I could react to them better.

I want you to see what I now see; that life is about tearing the most exquisite things down only to mend them back stronger, it's seeing pain as a process of healing; failure as a part of success, it's understanding that the pillars of strong women were once the cracked bones of little girls; it's accepting you can't control what breaks you but you can control how you react to it;

That healing is not about happiness; it is about completeness.

It's being angry, it's grieving, it's disappointment, it's feeling lost, it's finding joy, it's getting excited, it's choosing to exist across the entire spectrum of emotion and being okay with that.

Healing is what it means to be human.

Finding this sense of completeness is ultimately choosing to love yourself and build confidence, despite the setbacks and delays – knowing who you are and feeling RIGHT in your own skin is powerful, and once knowing this feeling, it's even more powerful to be able to SHARE this confidence and encourage others to see the best and potential in themselves;

That's when I knew the Sad Girl Clapback was more than an online diary;

It's about writing a new narrative for women;

It's throwing away the old narratives we've been fed as little girls; stopping the constant consumption of media that portrays women as damsels in distress or mean girls,

It's creating an inclusive community through conversation, collaboration, and inspiring emotional resilience;

It's knowing that we will continue to make mistakes because we are human and knowing we will have flashes of brilliance that prove we are divine too.

It's believing we don't have to be stuck in any story; that we have the power to change where we want to go and who we want to be;

It's hurting, healing, loving – it's living through the growing pains until we reach completeness.

So, to all the teachers that didn't believe in me,

To all the parents that looked down on me,

To all the haters that judged me,

To all the wrong boys that kissed me,

To the people who didn't think I'd make it this far,

I'm more than a pretty face, I'm more than the narrative that history outlined for me, I'm more than your stupid stock character—

This is my f-ing clapback.

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