Another Practical Guide to the Logic, Philosophy, and Thoughts of Christianity

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the problem of marriage to outside friends, much more for the complaining

spouse to bring the problems of the wedding chamber to another of the

opposite gender! While complaining to others out of the marriage of the

same gender, it is already revealing the cracks of the marriage to outsiders/strangers/the prowling lion. When complaining to one of the other

gender, is not the hidden message, "I'm not happy with my marriage, I want

something else."?

And people do this all too often under the guide of "confiding with

friends". The foolishness and delusion of the "confiding" has been the cause

of many broken marriages. How many quarrels have occurred from the

unhappy spouse that his/her weaknesses are exposed by the other spouse to

outsiders? How many extra-marital affairs have started first by confiding

marriage problems to another outside of the other gender? I have in my short

life seen an affair develop right under my nose when a male colleague with a

troubled marriage started confiding his troubles with an unattached female

colleague. Under the guise of pity, she would spend a lot of time to listen.

Under the guise of sharing his trouble, he would spend more time with the

girl. And within a couple of weeks, the extra-marital started. Oh the

deceitfulness of the heart (Jeremiah 17:9)!

Is it not already taught in Jeremiah 9:4: "Take ye heed every one of

his neighbour, and trust ye not in any brother: for every brother will utterly

supplant, and every neighbour will walk with slanders."

Psalm 12:2: "They speak vanity every one with his neighbour: with

flattering lips and with a double heart do they speak."

It is modern day psychological garbage that teaches that people have

to vent or somehow off load their problems or they will go mad. This has

become the basis for "confidantes" outside marriage. Some even feel that they can turn to family and within the marriage. But yet we forget who truly is trustworthy and has the power to help us? It is not the Lord God alone Who can be our true confidante and help (Psalm 20:7; Psalm 62:8; Psalm 121:2; Psalm 124:8)? What did the Lord Jesus do in Gethsemane in His hour of anguish? He chose to pray to the Father over confiding in His disciples who all fell asleep or professed that they would not deny Him but did it thrice (Matthew 26:30-47).

Did not Psalm 118:8 say clearly, "It is better to trust in the LORD

than to put confidence in man."?

And did not Micah 7:5-6 teach "Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide: keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bosom. For the son dishonoureth the father, the daughter riseth up against her mother, the daughter in law against her mother in law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house."

So much for family in the context of Micah 7:5-6.

The Lord God has to be the one and only focus in every relationship.

There is no venting, for it is the basis of gossip and tearing down of the

relationship. This is a lie that we buy into, just as we buy into platonic