Another Practical Guide to the Logic, Philosophy, and Thoughts of Christianity

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compatibility as a reason for marriage/divorce). The marriage of the

Patriarchs was determined by God directly and indirectly (Isaac's wife in

Genesis 24). Adam did not choose Eve, neither did she him pre-Fall. How

much better is it that the all-knowing God had selected the best companion?

And then it is for the couple to learn to love each other.

In the New Testament, Christ further affirmed God's role in marriage

by telling man not to put asunder what God had put together (Mark 10:9).

As it was for Eve, God has chosen the one best groom for His people –

Christ. There was no other choice, for either Adam or His People. For all His creations, there is no other choice than God Himself (Isaiah 45:5). The

adultery of God's people (Jeremiah 3:8) was in essence their willful

disobedience of going away from their marriage to God. There is in fact no

other god in existence for man to commit adultery through idolatry unlike in

human marriages. It is a sin of the falling away, another result of the Fall

where our first parents chose to be gods themselves rather than be in perfect

relationship with God.

What has resulted from the Fall in these relationships today are the

unpleasant complications such as: unrequited love, rejection, breakups,

divorce, sexual incompatibility, adultery, and many more.

The root cause of these is again our willfulness. Too many of us want

to do things our way. We want to choose, we want to like what we like. We

also lack loyalty and faithfulness. Consider that we also lack the self-control

to manage our emotions and evil desires, all these thrown into the mix in a

fallen world makes things the way they are.

While the sovereignty of God ensures His will is done through our

environment and circumstances, even through pre-marriage courtship and

human efforts, as in the example of Jacob and Rachel, man's sin is that we

lack moderation and tend to lean to the extremes. Without seeking God's

consent or affirmation, we go on ahead and do what we believe to be the

best.

For example, the act of confessing love is all too often a confession of

lust. How can there be love when you hardly know the person? The teenage crushes and so called "puppy love" are all too often a confusion of admiration, attraction and curiosity. None of them being love.

None of the feelings are evil in themselves; it is usually the follow up.

No sin can bother God at the least, for God is too great to be affected by our

deeds. Rather, we complicate things for ourselves in what are

straightforward issues. And then we blame God or ask God for deliverance

over our self-created trouble.

Once married, there must not be any inappropriate actions or emotions