Being God's light

Seek Wisdom in Love

Okay so I didn't really plan out this one but felt this was something I've learned from and should share with you . Who knows maybe some of you went or are going through a similar thing.

Okay so , I'm 18 to those who don't know and I've never been in a relationship. I have a lot of guy friends and everything but I've never really been in a relationship where I can say " this is my boyfriend " So I never know what to expect or how to react when a guy suddenly gives me attention and wants to persue me .

So a few weeks back I met this guy . He was visiting family who stays a few houses from mine and we started talking . We instantly clicked . Like we had all these things in common and he motivated and complimented me . Everything was going great . I felt so special and loved because no other guy in my past has treated me this special before.

He made me feel cared for because i would wake up every morning with a "good morning hope you slept well . Have a great day " and I would go to sleep with a "goodnight sweet dreams talk to you tomorrow " i mean this was amazing to me

So because of the feelings I was developing towards him I needed to ask God what He thought about it before it went any further. I prayed every night and asked God that if this guy wasn't my husband and should not be in my life that this guy would gradually be let out of my life . Because simply for the fact I want to date for it to result in marriage . And if this guy was just going to use me and string me along for a ride I wasn't going to waste my time on him .

I then started this book from TakeSomeNotes thats called "I do but I can't " which is a really amazing book and really helped me . It talked about in one of the chapters about what a Godly man is like and what to look for in a future husband . And after reading that I began questioning his relationship with the Lord. I knew he went to church but could he be a spiritual leader for me ? Is his life right with the Lord ? And so I started looking this up and what people said about this and somewhere it said I should seek wisdom.

I thought about what that ment and how to do that etc. And then started reading all these blogs and watching preachers and listening what they say and what God says about a Godly relationship .

I went further to seek wisdom from all of my friends who knew this guy and to hear what they think I should do .

But though through this wisdom seeking process I still didn't get the "Okay " from God . I struggled hearing God's say on it .And interesting enough that same day I watched another Video on this and she said " If you don't hear from God about something it sometimes means no"

This really opened my eyes . That maybe this was God's way of telling me no , to stop.

And you know what ? We've been talking for 3 weeks (long distance) and he grew bored. He gradually moved on . We started talking less and less . Until the point that I no longer get a good morning and goodnight message from him .

On the one side I'm heartbroken because I just started liking him and he's really sweet and all. But on the other side I'm happy because that was what I was asking God to do . To remove him from my life if he shouldn't be in it.

So the whole point of this long story is , talk to God . Tell him how you feel about this guy, ask him what he thinks you should do and most importantly, seek wisdom .be it friends , family, books (especially God's Word )even videos . Seek wisdom about it , and this doesn't just apply to relationships, to anything.

But remember this Proverbs 3:15-16

She is more precious than jewels,and nothing you desire can compare with her.
Long life is in her right hand;
in her left hand are riches and honor.

Remember your worth ladies. You are precious in the name of the Lord and no guy can take that away from you ❤

I love you guys and hope it helped. Dm me if you have prayer requests or simply need someone to talk to I'm here for you.