Avoiding The Player

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How would I ignore this feeling?

Tip #2: Distract yourself. Don't let this person control your mind. As difficult as it may seem to stop thinking of him, it's definitely doable. Keep yourself distracted with new activities that need your attention. And each time you feel lonely or idle, think about something else that makes you happy, except him.

He's not literally on my mind, pero I'm thinking of him when I'm alone. You know? Reflecting at the end of the day.

Pero as much as possible, I shouldn't think of him.

So eto ako ngayon, reading a book. 50 Shades of Grey, in specific. Hahahahahaha! Jokeee! Nahihiya nga akong bumili ng trilogy nun sa bookstore e! Hahaha.

Actually, I'm going to start with How They Met written by David Levithan.

On the first 20 pages ng How They Met, I therefore conclude that the point of view was from a guy-which, at first, I thought was from a girl-and he's a bisexual or a probably a gay!! He's eyeing on the hot barista in Starbucks! My goodnesss!!

Nakakawalang ganang basahin! For those who are bisexual out there, sorry but please don't be offended.

I just had a bad experience with bisexual people. You can't blame me, it was really hard for me.

Haaay. Yan! Nawalan tuloy ako ng babasahin! What should I do now? It's Saturday and I have nothing to do.

Ayain ko kayang manuod ng sine si Fra-

"Ano ba 'yan! Siya nanaman?! Gagawa na nga lang ako ng insight paper about sa topic namin nung minsan."

Infatuation vs. Love vs. Lust

All these three have things in common, and one of it is, the fact that it is a strong feeling that you feel towards another person.

Infatuation, yan yung feeling na in love ka with the concept of love and not really the person.

Uso 'to sa mga teenagers, one thing that defines an infatuated person is, that person is eager to find someone to love. In short, yung mga nagmamadaling magka lovelife!

Yan yung mga taong may famous lines na "I can't live without you" and "Mamamatay ako pag iniwan mo ako" ugh. Pathetic! How can you not live without them?! Are they your source of oxygen?! My goodness!

Infatuation is when you are selfish, and always jealous. It starts quickly, and ends up quickly. Parang posporo, mabilis magliyab at pag na ubos, wala na. The end.

Love, for me is a mature feeling. Ito yung, you're willing to let go kasi di na siya masaya sa'yo; eto yung inuuna mo muna kapakanan niya bago yung kapakanan mo, yung nararamdaman at mararamdaman niya bago sa'yo. It is when you are willing to make sacrifices.

Love is perfectly defined in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

Love is a decision to commit yourself to another and to work through conflict instead of giving up.

Love is when you are faithful, loyal, contented and secured with your partner.

And love is growing through time. You love each other deeper habang tumatagal. Parang wine, habang tumatagal lalong sumasarap.

Lastly, lust, walang kwenta. It is a self-centered desire hangga't walang love na involve.

It is interested only on what can be done for self-pleasure.

It is a temporary commitment that last only long enough to fulfill desire.

Lust is plain sexual desire.

Lust + Infatuation = Mortal sin (pre-marital sex) = Unwanted pregnancies = heartaches = abortion = ruined life. As you can see, when you add these two feelings the result would be a lot.

Sabi nang iba, lust can lead to love. Totoo kaya yun? Can you divert lust in to love?

Well, siguro pwede. Pero I believe hangga't may desire ka to have pleasure through sex, wala pa ring love.

Oh diba? Na distract kayo sa reflection ko no? Na-apply ko naman siguro yung tip #2? Hahahaha. EFFECTIVE!

May isa pa akong argument na gustong pag aralan at mag reflect e. Ano yung topic? Can opposite sex bestfriends be lovers? Okaya, is it possible for two opposite bestfriends na walang mafeel na more-than-friends kind of love?

Interesting?