(EQ): Explained By An Average Idiot

And Then The Rest

How do sociopaths get away with their crimes for long periods of time without feeling any remorsefulness?

They justify, incentivize, marginalize, minimize, compartmentalize, and deflect; all to create and uphold as much mental and emotional distance as they can between their actions and the consequences those actions have for others.

How can you control extreme emotions when you possess incredible superhuman strength and power?

For three-hundred dollars: What is... Kryptonite.

How do you thrive after an SO left you for another woman and made you feel unworthy person?

No romantic relationships are easy, and when they fall apart very rarely do both partners feel the same about the dissolution of their time together. How relationships work out or fall apart is dependent on what each partner is putting in to it, and what each partner is taking away from it. A reference point commonly referred to as Costs (what's going in) versus Benefits (what's coming out).

This answer is not going to speculate on your former partners registration status, as I've done several deep searches into the statistics of that class of offenders and at the end of the day the statistics are often incomplete, vague, entirely false or come from unknown/ private sources that can sometimes be tied to non profit organizations that have close connections with legislators. The fact is- the numbers we're told are intentionally skewed to generate fear and repulsion while bolstering legislative support from the population, and if you take the time to do the math including all variables; less than 2% of all registered sex offenders are re-incarcerated from new convictions of sexually motivated crimes. Which suggests that 98 out of 100 times an offender in that classification is reincarcerated, they are being convicted of less severe (or non person, non-aggravated) crimes or being sent back to prison for parole violations like drinking, failure to pay fines, and in some instances just visiting with family members that are considered minors. These violations vary widely and are dependent on each offenders post-release supervision plan.

So there is this stigma in our society that the entire class of people under this registration status are the least worthy members of our community. In peoples hearts and minds the acronym "SO" is synonymous with pedophilia, which is the most extreme sexual perversion that exists. And I think that's sad when there is overwhelming evidence that convicted pedophiliacs make up the smallest margin of registered offenders.

This is not meant in a rude, controversial, or condescending way; but it sounds to me like you began the relationship with an aversion to your partners registration status, and because of that you felt like to be with them you were lowering your standards. When the relationship fell apart, it made you feel disrespected and dirty for accepting so much about someone who took your acceptance for granted. It's not wrong or unnatural to feel that way. However, to begin to re-frame this situation in a way that helps you to regain your confidence and self worth, try practicing these mental steps:

1. Acceptance. Spending some time thoughtfully accepting that no two people are the same, that on a human level we are all capable of love and are worthy of being loved can really help to transform your perspective of the situation. After all, you've already accepted the heaviest baggage from your former partner, accepting that they are passing that baggage to another woman should help to lighten your load, not weigh you down.

2. Meditation. Meditation, meditation, and more meditation! Reflect on everything that happened, and realize that no two people process the same information identically. Embrace that there can be two rights or two wrongs when there are two competing perspectives. What's right for them might not feel right for you and vice versa, that doesn't make either of you wrong. It only means that you have different thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.