(EQ): Explained By An Average Idiot

An Emotionally Intelligent Lade

How often do you embrace the dark side of your emotions?

As often as it takes to get through them; to find some better light in a brand new day.

How does one deal with feelings of failure, the mourning of missed opportunities forever gone, resigning to the numbing malaise and sad doldrums of modern life all while the soul aches for something more?

One examines why they've become burdened with these negative perceptions and feelings, and decides whether it's time to release them; or if feeding their presence is justifiable or beneficial in some way. Accepting "failure" as an opportunity to learn, and develop strategy is a wonderful place to start Taking a different mental approach to how you view your interactions with your self and others could be an impactful second step, as well. Embracing the idea that everything bears a purpose; no matter how relevant or irrelevant, its relevance is subjective to its perspective, therefore its purpose must be significant. Now there's a thought.

What do you think about mood swings?

I think we all get overwhelmed, and each of us have different ways of working through it. Some might have outbursts, while others internalize the destructive force, while more seem to be able to rationalize their responses to the different ways they feel. With most things, there is a cause, and behind any cause there is a will to change. So what are you willing to change?

How do emotionally intelligent people deal with heartbreak?

By accepting that things will come, and things will go. Nothing and no one is ideal, and the best thing you can do when you're experiencing those intense emotions is to give yourself the time and space to feel them completely. Closure never comes by closing things out. Regardless of the specific feeling, EQ involves two parts; emotional awareness, and then using that information to strengthen inter and intrapersonal relationships.

Life is not about how we survive the lowest lows; it's about how we use those moments and experiences to inspire growth.

What is the most important virtue to have?

Good character.

What is the difference between smiling inside and outside?

One is something you feel somewhere near your soul; like an inescapable positive intuition sounding throughout your head, your heart, and your chest. The other is something you wear on your face, and it can be genuine, forced, or as fictitious as a mask; from an expression of how you feel to a skill used to self defend or manipulate.

One simply elevates, while the other can be used to uplift, or put-down.

What is the psychology behind people who feel the need to constantly get attention from others, even if they're not getting any feedback or response in return?

The psychology behind a persons behavior is different than the mind behind their behavior; though psychology describes a behavior derivative from the mind, a persons mind describes and reinforces their intentions and beliefs- then justifies their behaviors. There is a closer relationship between behavior and intent than there is between behavior and external factors. Always start within.

What is the definition of "difficult" and what does it mean for them as an individual (emotionally, psychologically)? Is there any cure for being 'difficult'? What causes this in the first place?

Dif-fi-cult: adjective; needing much effort or skill to accomplish, deal with, or understand. 

The less we understand about ourselves, the harder it becomes to understand one another.

If I don't trust my feelings because they can be very dangerous at the most unpredictable moments, how can I calm them? Because they're not going anywhere on their own.

Feelings are like the weather. They can range from the calm to the chaotic, they're in constant patterns of change and development, and they're unavoidable. But we all choose how we perceive those feelings and how we respond to them.

What if emotions never have the greatest effect on the inner form of the self according to Freud?

One who is ruled by their emotions will have little control over the formation of emotional self. The one who enlists the power of thought to analyze their emotions, is empowered to master self reform.