please don't be afraid
not of us, not of doing anything wrong
With avoiding us you do a lot more damage than with missgendering us accidentally or using a phrase that reproduces stereotypes or inaccurate things
yes, it's really important and good if you inform yourself and are an ally
but we know that nobody can know everything and sometimes it's enough to just accept who we are
and let us correct you
tho often we don't have the power to correct you and it's not our job but we are the ones who suffer, so it's in our interest that you make this right, but
don't be afraid
not of us, not of doing anything wrong
if you want to do everything right, we are happy about that. and yes, it's important. words are mighty and if nobody changes, nothing changes and we want to make the world a better place.
but don't think "oh I'm the one who does everything right, I'm so cool"
it's better to say "i might be saying things wrong, but i will be fine with getting corrected" - and try to be okay with that.
i know this is hard, i hate it too, it feels horrible.
but don't be afraid.
not of us, not of doing anything wrong.
we are just the same
of course we all change a bit and we're getting older and our appearance changes and we're starting new chapters of life
but if you were able to talk to us before, not our queerness is the reason that you can't anymore.
we have been queer before all the time, you only learned something new about us
and we should use this knowledge to connect, to get to know each other better. and not to build a wall between us.
yeah, I know, it's annoying if someone you know gets a partner or datemate or something and only talks about them and is with them and doesn't have time for you and you never get time alone with them anymore...
but that applys to heterosexual couples too.
blessed be the aro aces.
and then you don't have an excuse anymore to not talk to your queer relative or acquaintance
except you are the one with the partner who annoys the other one with only talking about them.
please don't be afraid
we're just like you, that's the whole point
of course we have different experiences, but that's also the case with other things. we're discriminated and you don't know everything about that and we might have different interests and our life is full of queerness and if that's not your interest it might get difficult - just like with other things. like, I'm not that interested in k-pop and animes and you can bet that has been difficult sometimes. :)
and if you don't understand my queer experiences that might make things more difficult - but not impossible.
and some things are new for our language and lifestyle
but please
let us do this together
the world always changes
but please let us do this change together
please
don't build a wall between us
that's exactly the thing I don't want
so please
-thank you
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