What's Wrong of Confessing

Introduction

My elementary teacher told us that if you have no crush, you're foolish. And that time, I was 10 or 11 years old. Dati na akong may crush since Grade 2. Ang aga, 'di ba? Nararamdaman ko na ang butterflies in the stomach like people whose in love used to say. Ginagawa ko na siyang inspiration lalo na sa pagpasok everyday. But, I'm still amazed of what she told us. It was like new to me. It was like the first sunrise of the morning.

Kaya hanggang sa naka-graduate ako sa elementary at sa high school, dala-dala ko pa rin ang sinabi ni Ma'am sa amin. Pero syempre, madaming tanong ang bumabagabag sa akin.

"Required ba talagang magkaroon ng crush?"

"Ano ba ang meron sa crush?"

"Nakaka-inspire ba si crush?"

"Totoo ba talagang may lumalabas na paruparo sa tiyan kapag kinikilig?"

"Bakit kailangang magkaroon ng crush?"

"Nakakatanga ba talaga kapag walang crush?"

"Ano ang kasunod ng crush?"

At ngayon, nasa college na. After more than a decade, madami ng realizations. Madami ng natutunang lessons. Nakaranas na ng klase-klaseng problema kahit sa love life pa at 'yon ang akala ko na tapos na. But the saying I heard way back in elementary days still chasing on my mind.

"When you don't have a crush, you're a fool."

Iba't ibang tanong. Iba't ibang opinion. Iba't ibang ideas. Pero iisa lang ang dapat na sagot-- we are emotional being. We have feelings. We have emotions. We can identify it by evaluating our heartbeat.

Kaso . . . oo, may problema. Pwedeng maging problema; pwedeng hindi. May taong hindi nakukuntento sa paghanga lang. May taong gusto ng challenge. May taong nangangailangan ng response. May taong nadulas sa sasabihin. May taong napasubo sa isang hindi pinaghahandaang sitwasyon. May taong atat magka-jowa. May taong naiinggit sa love story ng iba. May taong gusto mag-confess. Unfortunately, most of the time, isa ako sa taong 'yan.

In my impulsive years of being a teenager, naranasan ko'ng mag-confess ng nararamdaman sa taong gustong-gustong-gustong-gusto ko.

Kaso 'eto na nga, may problema. Naging isang malaking problema. Ang akala ko dati'y benefecial, hindi pala. Na-scam ako ng sarili kong paniniwala na "Okay lang mag-confess." Naloka ako at nasaktan.

That is why we need to be enlighten about the real score of confession and its role in engaging to a two-way relationship with someone we loved.

Uso man sa panahon ngayon ang magkaroon ng love life lalo pa't naging rampant ito sa social media, the standard still there. Hindi nagbabago. Walang nagbago. Gano'n pa rin gaya ng dati.

Confessing to someone has two consequences: acceptance and rejections.

And as a person, ayaw nating makaranas ng rejections. Umiiwas tayo sa mga possibilities. Ang problema lang, kapag napasubo na at hindi pala mutual ang nararamdaman, saka na ito pumapasok. Saka na tayo napapa-drama sa social media. Sunod-sunod ang posting ng negative at kung minsan nagma-My Day pa with tears in eyes.

What's Wrong with Confession is a book for all of us. It tackles the three angles of wrong confession. It point outs the bad side and how it become wrong in the eyes of "standard". It shares the lessons of being too rushy for someone we once admired. It gives us knowledge on what are the do's and dont's of it. This book is not just about the negative side of confession but it pertains to the right time and right place of confessing a feeling for someone. It gives us the enlightenment about the two kinds of confession: right and wrong. Inside this are the verses from Bible, the commentaries of Mrs. Ellen G. White, the opinions of certain people and my own personal experiences. 

As King Solomon said on Song of Solomon 8:4 "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."

And when the right time comes, confession will be a blessing for the two people who have a mutual feelings.