I'm pretty sure I've talked about my dad's ex girlfriend in here before. If not, I'll tell you that she's a huge, gigantic bitch. Take my word for it.
My dad came home from California in September, a few weeks before my birthday. He lived in California for about a year and a half, during which he lived with his girlfriend for about a year. Ever since he got back and they broke up, she has been persistently bothering him and trying to get him to come home. She even called me (on my birthday!) and told me to tell him to go back to California. She has been trying to get him to go back since the day he left.
Now, it's the day after Christmas and it's worse than ever. My dad has gone out there a few times just because she begged him to. He just flew there today, which is the reason why I'm writing this. She bribed him with a trip to Hawaii, so he's gone for ten days now. He keeps telling me this is the last time he's ever going to see her, and he's going to cut off all contact once he gets back. He claims that he's just trying to get a free trip and a bunch of free stuff while he's there (she's paying for the entire trip. To give you an idea of just how rich she is, a few weeks ago she received an unexpected check for $200,000 from her company that her dead husband used to own).
Up until a few hours ago, this whole thing really didn't bother me. I thought about it, and I decided that I wouldn't let my relationship with my dad be affected by her. I stayed at my dad's apartment last night (Christmas) and we had a good heart to heart about a lot of things. Then, the bitch started calling. I went into the other room to talk to my grandparents on the phone, while my dad tried to calm her down (she was drunk. By the way, she's an alcoholic). When I walked out after hanging up with my grandparents, I heard her say to my dad, "Your children are affecting our relationship." At the time, I thought it was hilarious and I had to go to the other room to start laughing. She said other things that I can't really remember at the moment because that one sentence stuck out to me so much. I just can't wrap my head around it. The only "logical" explanation I can come up with is that we're affecting their "relationship" simply by existing. She never encouraged my dad to maintain a relationship with my brother and I while he lived in California. I think she sees us as a threat, and can tell that he is choosing us over her. Another thing she has continually told my dad is that if he flies out to California and marries her, she will cover all expenses that he's paying for right now such as paying rent for his apartment, his truck, and whatever else. She just wants him to pack up and leave everything behind. She told him a few days ago to tell my brother and I at the very last minute that he was moving back to California to marry her, and then ditch us.
I have so many things I want to say to this woman. But most of all, why? Why do you want to take my dad away from me so badly? Why would you ever want to take a father away from his children? Why can't you leave me alone and let me live a normal life again? Why do you want to make my family so miserable?
The thing with those phone calls is that I have never once heard my dad defend me. He just sat there and let her talk about my brother and I being a burden to their relationship while I sat there, staring at him and hearing every word she said about us while he did nothing. He always tells me stories of how when I was little he used to work so hard to protect me and keep me out of harm's way. Why not now? When did things change? It doesn't matter that I'm not a little kid anymore, and that it's not physical harm. I don't understand why I've suddenly become less of his daughter because some controlling woman with money came into the picture.
There are so many things I want to say to her. I'm planning on writing her a letter within the next few days and sending it so it's there for her when they get back from Hawaii. I don't know if she'll read it, and I don't know if I care all that much. I guess it'll be more for me than her.
If you read all that, just remember one thing I've learned in the last few years; Money can't buy everything, no matter how much you have.
Karma is a bitch, and I know it'll get her one day.
