Do you regret on hurting someone as much as him?

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On the authority of Rabeeyah al-Asslamee who said :

I used to serve the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam and he gave me some land, and he gave Abu Bakr some land, and when it came to dividing the land, we differed over a cluster of dates from a date palm tree.

Abu Bakr said : This is on my side of the land!

And I said : It is on my side!

There used to be a problem between me and Abu Bakr, and Abu Bakr said a statement to me which I hated but he regretted saying it, so he said to me:

O Rabeeyah! Say something to me similar to what I said to you, so that it can be a requital.’

So I said : ‘I will not say it.’

Abu Bakr said : ‘You will say it or I will request the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam to order you to say it.

So I said : ‘I will not say it.’

Abu Bakr left that portion of the land for me and went off to the Prophet sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam and I followed him.

The people from my tribe followed us and said to me:

‘May Allaah have mercy on Abu Bakr, why is he going to the Messenger of Allaah –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam–about you, and he said what he said about you.’

So I said :
Do you know who this is??

This is Abu Bakr as-Siddeeq, he is one of the two who were in the cave, he is one who has grown old as a Muslim ( one of the elders of the Muslims), beware he does not turn around and see you assisting me against him and becomes angry and he meets the Messenger of Allaah –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– , and the Messenger of Allaah –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– will become angry due to him being angry, and then Allaah Azza wa Jal becomes angry due to them being angry and then Rabeeyah will be destroyed.’

They said : ‘What do you order us to do?’

I said : ‘Go back.’

Abu Bakr –RadhiAllaahu anhu- went off to the Messenger of Allaah –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– , so I followed him by myself, until he reached the Prophet –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– and he told him the story as it was.

The Prophet –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– raised his head towards me and said:

'O Rabeeyah what’s the matter between you and as-Siddeeq?’

I said :

‘O Messenger of Allaah –sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam– such and such happened, and he said a statement to me which I disliked, then he said to me, say something similar to what I said to you so that it can be requited, but I refused.’

Then the Messenger of Allaah sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

Yes, do not say a word back to him, but say: May Allaah forgive you O Abu Bakr. May Allaah forgive you O Abu Bakr.’

Hasan said: 'Abu Bakr turned around... and he was crying...'

(Silsilah al-Ahadeeth as-Saheehah’)

When a person regrets the sins he committed and feels sad for having committed them, and feels pain when he remembers them, then all these are evidences of sincere repentance.
Perhaps it’s shame or regret, but unless you acknowledge your mistake, you will never be able to fix it. 

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah  that the Messenger of Allah said:

When the believer commits sin, a black spot appears on his heart. If he repents and gives up that sin and seeks forgiveness, his heart will be polished. But if (the sin) increases, (the black spot) increases. That is the Ran that Allah mentions in His Book: ‘Nay! But on their hearts is the Ran (covering of sins and evil deeds) which they used to earn.’” [Sunan Ibn Majah]

There’s a reason why Allah loves those who have sinned and repented, for they have the softest of hearts. 

They embrace new beginnings and are driven by a force to become better people, to make up for their mistakes.

They are compassionate and forgiving towards others because they have been there and they have been humbled by their own experiences.

Those are the people who convey hope, show mercy and guide others to the right path. 

Their sins become blessings in disguise because they renew their promises to Allah , and work harder to please Him than they ever did before.

They are reborn in the most beautiful of ways.

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