Breathe Through the Scars

By esjaadi

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In this memoir of my personal downfall & strengths that made me the person I am today, I talk about my mental... More

Preface - Superpower
Obsession of Love - Part 1
Chapter 1 - Part 2
Chapter 1 - Part 3
Ch. 1 Part 4 - What I Recall from my Past Life
Chapter 2 - Part 1 Disquietude
Ch. 2 Part 2 - Prognosis & Hospitalization
Ch. 2 Part 3 - Prognosis & Anxiety
Ch. 2 Part 4 - Anxiety & Memories
Ch. 2 Part 5 - My Situation & Records
Ch. 2 Part 6 - Stagnant
Ch. 3 Part 1 - Blue Devils
Ch. 3 Part 2 - Taking Life by the Hand
Ch. 3 Part 3
Ch. 3 Part 4
Ch. 3 Part 5 - Hawaii & my Mother
Ch. 4 Ambition & Mental Health
Ch. 5 Part 1 - Private Life
Ch. 5 Part 2 - Living in my Comfort Zone
Ch. 5 Part 3 - Lack of Relationships & Friendships
Ch. 5 Part 4 - Rebel Against & Changes
Ch. 6 Perception of Life
Ch. 7 The Vibe I Felt
Ch. 8 Middle America & The Media
Ch. 9 Outdated Storyline & Identity
Ch. 10 Past Emotions From Friends
Ch. 11 Sweet Memories
Ch. 12 Emotions and Fashion
Ch. 13 My Projects
Ch. 14 Potentiality
Ch. 15 Mindset From Rich to Wealthy
Ch. 16 My Sense of Freedom
Ch. 17 From Self-Conscious to Pride
Ch. 18 "Reality" vs. "Back-Up Plan"
Ch. 19 Part 1 What I Aspire to be
Ch. 19 Part 2
Ch. 19 Part 3 Desire for Dreams
Ch. 19 Part 4 Job vs. Dream
Ch. 19 Part 5 Why it Took So Long
Ch. 19 Part 6 Belief vs. Disbelief
Ch. 19 Part 7 Serious About Aspirations
Ch. 19 Part 8
Ch. 19 Part 9 Dreams are Valid
Ch. 20 My Dream with One of my Favorite Artists
Ch. 21 Part 1 Why I want to be in NY
Ch. 21 Part 2
Ch. 21 Part 3 How I Feel About NY
Ch. 21 Part 4
Ch. 21 Part 5
Ch. 21 Part 6
Ch. 21 Part 7 My Emotions on NY
Ch. 21 Part 8
Ch. 22 Part 1 Stylist & Dancer's Dream
Ch. 22 Part 2 Dreams and NY
Ch. 22 Part 3 A Dancer's Dream
Ch. 22 Part 4 University & Dreams
Ch. 22 Part 5 Educate Myself
Ch. 22 Part 6 What Dreams are About
Ch. 23 Part 1 The Blue Chip of My Life
Ch. 23 Part 2
Ch. 23 Part 3
Ch. 23 Part 4 Bawse Values
Ch. 23 Part 5 Fashion and Networking
Ch. 23 Part 6
Ch. 23 Part 7
Ch. 23 Part 8
Ch. 24 Found Happiness in California

Conclusion

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By esjaadi

"If you have a dream to be something big, you should go for it. But you've got to give it everything you've got. You gotta wake up. You gotta eat it, breathe it, see it every second of the day. And if you do that you might be lucky enough to wake up and playing the halftime show." -Lady GaGa

My dreams are so big that they scare me but I shouldn't let fear stand in my way. I want my dreams for plans as badly as I want to breathe. Which means, I will be successful. I need to move to another city to get going on my dreams.
I have so much to show of my hard work as a dancer. I am capable of so much and I want to present that in the fashion world as well as the dance industry. I want to show myself what I am capable of. I don't have to do what everyone else is doing in order to succeed.

"Success begins with the courage to admit what you truly want." -Ralph Marston

There's so much that I want in life including my dreams. I have to show myself that I am capable of more than just what I want.
I'm a dancer, but I want to become a choreographer. I need to get out of my comfort zones to do what I have to do and what I need to do to become successful. I need to up my emotional intelligence, so that I can identify my emotions clearly on each level. I want to be able to present my emotions via dance so that I can talk about what my performance and someone else's performance means.
I'm a fashion blogger, but I want to be a fashion stylist and to be able to present my emotions via fashion editorial. There are so many emotions in one editorial, but the focus is trends and style. I want the focus to be on an emotional level because I want to see how fashion affects our mind and body language as well as our emotions.

"Don't let your dreams ruin your life." -Naykol

I don't why I sat idly not accomplishing anything throughout the day. I have so many dreams that I am meant for. I read book to educate myself.
I need to "jump" to start over and leave my comfort zone for good.

"I love to change. It makes me feel alive. I'm too different. I'm too strange. I'm too out there. Oh it's pretentious to talk about how creative you are. I don't feel that way at all. I think it's empowering and important and I'm coming for you." -Lady GaGa

She inspires me to be better. She motivates me to not only be a better person, but to work on my dreams as well.
I can relate to this quote that change makes me feel alive and I love change. I don't like being stagnant. It hurts. Positive change makes me feel better about myself and it feels do exciting.
I strongly agree that it's empowering and important to speak of my creative you are. I have to pry to myself that I can do this for me and no one else. I'm the only one that cares about my dreams like no one else. I have to show myself that I am capable of more than I think.
I feel that I have so much to show the world of what I am capable of and what can do to improve myself.

"If I would have listened to the naysayers, I wouldn't have gotten this far! Don't let their fears ever stop you." -Missy Elliott

This inspires me to be a better person. I didn't actually listen to the naysayers and haters. I learned to not allow them to drown me in their disgust.
I have so miss dreams for myself that I need to accomplish them soon. I have to move to another city that I like to overcome all my fears. Dreams should be as powerful as my mindset and the way I think. Even more powerful than that. I believe in my dreams.

"When God puts something in your imagination, you have to run with it. You can't let anybody kill the vision that God puts inside you." -Steve Harvey

I'm not completely religious, but I love the quote. I believe I can pursue anything I set my mind to. It's not one or the other. I believe I have within me the strength to believe whatever I want and take it to fruition.
I believe in my vision so much that I do let anyone kill it, not even me. I am ready to pursue my vision and the ideas I have for it. It's important to tell a story via fashion editorial. As far as fashion goes, I want to prove to myself that I can choreograph a peice that's relatable not only to me, but to others as well.

"My goal is to live a life I don't need a vacation from."

I want to live my life the way I want to, the way I want to pursue it. I want to live a different kind of life. I want to pursue what I want to do.

"If you don't like where you are, move. You are not a tree."

I didn't like living in MA nor was I actually happy living there. I wasn't completely depressed about it, it's that I'd rather live my life in a city where I can be happy. Everything that I have ever wanted is on the other side of fear. I'm supposed to do what I was created to do and that is to become a choreographer and a fashion stylist. Not on the east coast, but on the west coast. I'm actually happier there. I have to prove to myself that my potential is endless.

"Fuck the system. Create your own path."

I don't have to do what society says. I don't have to do what the system thinks I should be doing. I don't have to do what another person thinks I should do. I'd rather create my own path to success. I'd rather design myself and my life.

"If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave."

I didn't belong in MA. My mindset has moved from New York to the west coast. I can pursue my dreams here and turn them into goals. I'm glad I'm not in MA.

"The worst type of goal you can have for your life is a realistic one."

All my life, I have been told to have a "realistic" goal, a "realistic" plan. I've told to be "realistic." Just from friends I'm not with anymore.
My goals are not realistic, but currently exist in my mind and need to come to fruition in order to come to my real fantasy. I want to live out my fantasy. My dreams mean more than anything. It's what I live for. It's what makes me feel alive. I want to exist on my own terms, not someone else's. I want to risk it all for my dream. I want to be somebody nobody thought I could be. I want to create my own success story to inspire and motivate others.

"Don't downgrade your dream to match your reality, upgrade your faith to match your reality."

I don't live in MA, anymore. I think big and I believe I would get big results once it happens. I need to be the person I needed when I was younger to succeed. I have to change my life. I have to take control of my life and live the way I want to.

"No artist tolerates reality." Nietzche

"Attract what you want by being what you want."

I'm a dancer, but I want to be a choreographer, fashion blogger and fashion stylist. I have a blog but no photos of myself. At this point, it's difficult to be what I want to be to attract what I want in my life.

"The world you see in your mind, is the world you choose to live in." -Joe Duncan

What I perceive in my world is a world of luxury and greatness. I don't give a fuck what others would tell me any different. Their manipulation doesn't work on me. I see everything that I want and need to have everything in order to be the person that I must become.
First of all, I perceive my life to be in a city that I love. I see myself taking dance classes and interning with fashion stylists. I want to be a professional blogger as well to present my style as a stylist. I want to be to go shopping whenever I can as well as attend concerts to any artist I want to experience their music. I want to be able to travel the world and experience different cultures.
Secondly, I want to move to Los Angeles, California after I live in New York for some time. Once I have established myself as a professional blogger and professional dancer. I know there are dancers and choreographer in Los Angeles and there are dance studios there, so I can definitely improve myself as a dancer. I want to be able to apprentice with choreographers and dance companies. I want to work on this in hip hop, modern and belly dancing. I know I have to improve my ballet as my foundation.
Thirdly, once I have established myself as a choreographer and a great fashion stylist, I want to move my life outside of the country of U.S.A and move to Australia. I haven't decided where on the east coast of that country, yet. I went to Australia and New Zealand the summer before high school and I have been wanting to go back there ever since. Besides, it's where I want to live for the rest of my life. I'm not going to retire until I make these dreams come to fruition. Nor am I going to work until the day I die.
In the midst of all this, I'm going to work on my projects. I want to create 3D printed sunglasses with the pattern of the human iris as well an animal's iris. I want create t-shirt and hoodies of Persian Royalty. Not modern day, but ancient.
     Besides, I see the beauty of luxury in my future with a gorgeous wedding. I don't want it to be in the U.S.A. I want it to be one marriage. I want it to be the best I've ever had.

"It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are." -Grinding for success (Instagram)

     I wasn't able to do all this because of my stagnant situation.  It's been quite rare for me to get out of my comfort zones. I'm aware that nothing ever happens in comfort zones. Nothing grows in comfort zones.
     I have the courage and ambition to grow up and become who I really am. If I were to do get to my favorite city on my own, it would take 5 to 10 years. That's fucked up! I don't care about another person's lifestyle nor their mindset.
     Who I really am is someone who is strongly passionate about dance and obsessed with fashion. I'm sensitive at times, however I am stronger than that. I'm kind but not too nice. I want to be generous in terms of donating large sums of money to organizations I care about. I haven't met the person I want to become yet.
     It's about becoming my best self and becoming who I must be in order to succeed. I have no other choice but to succeed. I know who the person I really want to be is and I have to grow up to be her. I feel like I am the only person who wants and needs to see that person rise to success and become her best self. I feel like those who are preventing me to move out of my comfort zone do not want to see me succeed nor would they help me.
     The person who I really am is motivated, ambitious, determined, a very hard worker, enjoys working smarter, adventurous (as a traveler), perseveres, is passionate, inspired by entrepreneurs and enjoys the luxury of fashion and architecture. I enjoy the privilege and luxury of experiencing everything life has to offer me. This includes but is not limited to: fashion shows, performing at award shows, creating an editorial for a magazine, travel the world and go to a Yankees vs. Red Sox game at Fenway Park. I am the kind of person who is sociable, active and full of life.
     However, when I was living in a situation where it was preventing me from becoming who I want to be, I couldn't grow. Only I'm allowed to validate myself. No one else.
   
"Stop making your dream fit in this world and start making the world fit in your dream." -Derek Palizay

     I feel like those who have held me back have told me to stay in Boston and are literally saying, "make your dreams fit in this world," instead of the opposite. They don't know shit about me.
     I've cried so many goddamn times because I've been strong for too long. Mostly because I have to be in a city I love. I'm the only person who believes in me as much as I do.
    I'd rather make the world fit into my dream so that I can have the freedom to travel, the freedom to educate myself by reading whatever book I want, to educate myself by learning about other cultures, to be able to express myself via fashion whenever I want and at any given moment and to be able to attend any concert or event without restrictions. My dreams are worth more than my sleep. My dreams are bigger than I think they are. I can conquer my dreams. I need to move to a city I like, network with others who are in the business of where I want to work in - fashion and dance. I want to be able to attend a McQueen fashion show in London. That's the only fashion designer I'm genuinely interested in. He is the first designer that I was intrigued in because of Lady GaGa and the first fashion show that I saw of his was, "The Horn of Plenty." That collection is Fall/Winter 2009.

"Not being where you want to be in life is okay. Doing nothing about it is not." -Shawn Thomas

     Each day, I had felt like I wasn't doing anything about my life to change it. It's rare that I get to spend time with friends because everyone is so busy.
     There are so many changes in my life that  must be made. It bothers me very much that I haven't made the most important ones in years!
     One of the big changes that I absolutely need to do is move to a city I like. This is not only an escape from a life I don't like and I wasn't happy with, but an escape to my comfort zones; drive myself to succeed, pursue my ambitions and live out my passion.
      The next change in my life would be a change in my wardrobe and makeup. I have to be better than my old self. While this change is happening, I would be reading books on wealth, business and entrepreneurial pursuits. I want to improve myself as well as to use that information that I've learned and apply it to my life.
     Then, I'll be taking dance classes and interning with fashion stylists. I want to work my ass off by doing so. No more delay. I want to pursue these as soon as I can. There shouldn't be a delay on my plans for dreams.
      Next, I will create 3D printed sunglasses with the pattern of the human iris as well as an animal's iris. I want to donate a percentage of the profits to animals that are endangered.
     While in the midst of all this, I want to grow my following on my blog and on Instagram so that I connect with those who are following my style. I want the clothes to be a feeling I can express, not just something that I can wear for the photos.
     The next change is that I want to move to Los Angeles, California to further my dance ambitions and apprentice with choreographers and take dance classes at Millennium Dance Complex, Movement Lifestyle, and Will "da Beast" Adams' dance studio, IMMA Space.
     Of course, none of this is in any specific order, however they need to happen in my lifetime. No "ifs," "and," or "buts."
      Once I have become an accomplished choreographer and fashion stylist, I want to move my life to Australia to live a quiet life and whatever I want.

Chris Brown, Lil Wayne, Busta Rhymes - Look at me Now

"At the end of the day it is your mentality that dictates your reality." -BusinessMindset101

     I believe that my mindset resides in a city that I want to be in; in order to be there, I have to strong and motivated. Which I am. I have to pursue my dreams for plans there.
     I understand that I cannot be one what I need to be by remaining who I am. I need to let go of the old me and I must become the new me. I want to make myself proud. I should be thriving and making moves of my life. I want to create what I want. I want to change my mindset to a different level where I'm more motivated, driven and intellectual. I want to figure out what I'm known for.
     I'd rather create my own path because fuck the system. It's not over until I win. I want to do what makes me happy and live in a city that makes me happy. I want to be obsessed with the life that I want to live and live out that dream.
     I need to fight for what I want - instead of doing nothing about it. I'd rather start over outside of my comfort zone.

"Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible." -Frank Zappa

     I'm not normal, but I haven't progressed either. I know I'm eclectic. I don't relate to people who are just like everyone else. I want to grow into the person I must become in order to be successful. There are things that scare me because I don't know if those things will be a success. For example: my project of the 3D printed sunglasses.
     It's vital to make progress in my life as a blogger, dancer, as a fashion stylist and a choreographer. I believe it is possible to make progress outside of my comfort zone. Living in MA didn't really serve me in the way that I wanted.
     I don't want things to be considered "normal." I'd rather do things my way. All I want to be is successful. I want to be successful in being a fashion blogger, fashion stylist, dancer, and choreographer as well as being a writer.

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