Dear Life,

Letter One

Dear Parents,

You may think getting a divorce, fighting, and all of your anxiety that you go through as you go through, is hard. Believe it or not, it is not as hard as the way as kids feel, watching our family shatter into a million pieces. Talking to us about the other parent only makes it worse, than saying "We aren't putting you in the middle, that's so wrong and no parent should do that." But what you don't understand, is you do, in so many ways. Here are some of them, with explanations.

Hearing you fight, no matter where it is. If it's in an open room, we hear you. If it's in your closed bedroom, we hear you. Even if you're smart enough to have your fights outside with all the doors and windows closed and locked, our walls will never be thick enough to drown out the heart breaking screams of our parents falling out of love. Moral of the point. No matter where you hide, we will hear you.

Talking on the phone to your friends. Yes, that puts us in the middle. Why you may be asking, well, most people generally wonder around while chatting and gossiping, so imagine wondering around the house talking to your friend on the phone talking about how much of a disgrace your ex is, with your child sitting right there.

Just upright trash talking. Believe it or not, so many parents trash talk the other right to the kid, it doesn't matter if you have friends or not, you should never ever trash talk their other parent to them. No matter what they did, even if it was to hurt them, you never tell them.

Making us choose a parent. You need to understand, this is the last possible thing we want, to choose a parent. Doing that puts us right in the middle, you never ever make a child worse. What really puts us in the middle is when we say "I don't know" so we dont hurt either of you, because we don't know, and most of the time, both parents get offended and start bullying, trash talking, or making their child feel guilty so they don't move in with the other parent. Honestly I don't know if this is because you don't want to lose your kid, or if you don't want to pay child support, or both.

Those are only some of the things, and trust me there are so many more that so many other kids go through. Now because you are going through this, and you regret it, you tell your kids, never marry young, because it is always going to be doomed. Also to make sure you love the person, and the worst most rude and selfish one i have heard. Make sure you train him, and train him to clean up after him, emotionally and physically, wash himself properly, for him to get the most successful job he can so he makes a lot of money for you and your family, and most importantly, train him to love you more than absolutely more then everything else including yourself.

Whether you did this yourself or not, in my opinion, this is so utterly wrong. You need to love yourself, and know you who are as a person, before you can ever love anyone else, that I will make sure of. You need to make sure they have the same values as you, physically and emotionally. Make sure he works hard, but also make sure you work just as hard, so both you and your lover are pulling 100%-100%, not 50%-50. You also need to make sure that you and your lover know each other well, been best friends or friends long before you even considered dating, because you need to know and evaluate your partner.

You see, our generation is going to do better at relationships than our parents. Yes, we may have so much more stupid technology that likes to get in the way, but when it comes down to it, our generation, is going to make sure, and evaluate our relationships, better and more than our parents. Us kids, no matter the age, see Divorced parents, or absent parents, as only taking the easy way out.

Our generation will do better than yours, because we never ever, in a million years want our kids, to feel the way we do right now. It is as simple as that.

Sorry if I offended you, but this is the raw truth.

Yours truly,

Lil Bean.