Well there's always the stereotype route....
Except often it doesn't work. I wear tank tops and muscle tanks quite a lot, as well as a snapback sometimes. Guess what, people assume I'm straight - like nine times out of ten. Those who have suspected I'm nonstraight have all been queer themselves so they knew the the tall-tell traits from their own experiences. Personally, I don't bring up my own sexuality unless its germane to the convo - ie if I need to shut down bashing, someone comes out to me, if I'm asked. I don't want to make it the highlight of how people know me.
To help figure out if people are at least lgbt friendly, I ask them about their relationship, if they have a bf/gf, how many in the past, stuff like that (somewhat helpful in high school at least). Depending on standing knowledge I may or may not offer the same sex option for the bf gf q. Or if som'n lgbt related made big news I can ask their opinion on that, like whether it's positive or negative.
So yeah there's not really a good stereotype everyone follows. Get to know the girl as a person, then perhaps it'll come up.
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How the Others Grow Up
Non-FictionComing out? Not really. This isn't so much coming out rather it is trying to explain how I found this part of myself. I decided to write this after considering how some of my friends don't understand how I "work" in context of being lesbian. I think...
