Don't Call me That -SEQUEL TO SCMT

Updated T&C

If I could go back and start over, I would have covered those thoughts, and y/n's dysphoria, in a more realistic to the general trans community way, and would have been more open about everything above. I also would have started the self-acceptance arc sooner.

You do not have to transition to start loving yourself and/or treating yourself decently. This body is temporary, yes, you can medically transition, and for some people that is important. However, you are not stuck where you are mentally, you can be happy even when your body does not feel right, and transitioning will not make you happy if you don't like the person that you are. That is one of the main things which causes detransitioners to happen: expecting transitioning to solve their problems and make them happy. If you think that it will fix everything, do some self reflection. I am not saying that you are not trans, as you very well could be. But I am saying that you should consider if you would transition knowing that the only big difference might very well be a lower voice, flatter chest, and being able to present as male. It will not make you happy. That's your job, and not something that's just gonna happen on it's own.

Treating yourself with kindness, dismantling your internalized transphobia, and accepting yourself will help a damn lot, and is worth it.

Additionally, overbinding will do nothing for you long term but cause damage, and it is better to try to work on body neutrality than to let it become a habit. Your health is important.

In this sequel, I hope to better portray these issues in a more constructive way, show that it is possible to love yourself pre-transition, and encourage you all to try to do so. I also hope to show that transitioning does not solve everything, and to give the most accurate example of a relatively healthy and realistic trans person that I can manage. It is not always gonna be accurate, and that is ok, but I hope to do better than I did before, and hope you can forgive my error.

Support is great to have and important, but it doesn't have to be from internet people you'll never know, especially when it's so exaggerated as in hurt/comfort fiction. You will find people, your people, your own dynamics :)

AND.. everyone's journey is different. Some people struggle with some things more than others, or longer than others. That's all ok. Just take things as you can, and do your best to be happy with yourself, because that's the person you're sharing your life with.

Dysphoria will still be a major theme, but not in the same way it was in the first book.

Part 2, in reference to a very heavy arc in this book and mental illness:

So, a big part of this book is going to be about mental health issues and the way that they can affect both the individual experiencing them and the people around them. I want to be clear that this is not meant to romanticize this shit, or to portray these behaviors as something that is in any way ok. Struggling may explain why someone is lashing out, and it can definitely lead to that, but bad mental health is not an excuse to treat other people terribly.

I've represented various effects of mental health / disorders on an individual and their actions. Some examples are Wilbur's self-isolation, projection of self-deprecation onto others, and sometimes harshness. Y/n's emotional suppression / bitterness against others at times (in addition to self-isolation as well). Etc. I have not gone very much into mental health leading someone to lash out or treat others badly until this book. HOWEVER, explanation =/= excuse

This is also not meant to demonize mental health problems. I am using this as another example of how they can impact people. No character is a bad guy in the story, or a bad person, just a person who is acting badly. People are not inherently good or bad, it isn't so polarized, and while it's fine to be pissed at them (and make comments expressing that) let's try to remember that everyone makes mistakes and everyone has done things they aren't proud of. All of us.
In the paraphrased words of Jesus, let whoever among you without sin throw the first stone. Still leave angry comments though, they make me day.