Despite me being generally pretty open about my trauma and regression online, I'm quite the opposite in real life. I dislike talking about my mental health struggles and agere, and not many people know about it.
I'm still in close contact with my abuser, and I know what it's like to need to hide your regression. Here are some of my tips!
1. My abuser was very paranoid and would frequently look through my phone and through my room. I had little to no privacy, so I became pretty good at hiding things. My first method is hiding them in plain sight. It seems stupid, but if nothing seems wrong, then nothing is.
My second method is hiding things in your clothes. If it's something small like a piece of paper or a coloring page, then the pockets of that hoodie in the back of your closet will do just fine. If it's something bigger, you can hide it in the sleeve of a hoodie/sweater, just make sure it's positioned in a way that makes it look natural, not out-of-place or lumpy.
My third method is hiding things in your school bag if you have one. From my experience, my abuser typically would never look through my school bag. You shove something like a pacifier to the bottom of it (just make sure you clean it after), cover it with papers, and no one will suspect a thing. Another thing I would suggest is if you have an old backpack from a few years ago that you don't use anymore and is waiting in storage, you can use that to store some things. Plus, many backpacks have little pouches and zippers in places you wouldn't suspect.
My third tip is hiding things in vases beneath fake flowers/plants. You can hide some pretty disantly sized things in vases!
2. For cleaning agere gear, you can bundle your bottle/water bottle/pacifier/etc in a hoodie and bring it with you to the bathroom when you go to take a shower. Use the sink to clean the gear, take it back with your dirty clothes or just the same hoodie and everything good!
3. You can express your little space through clothes. As I grew into my tween-teen years, I developed a kawaii-type fashion style. My abuser didn't mind as many mental abusers tend to treat their victims like children, in a way. My clothes have always been a way I've expressed myself and my regression! Plus, I always got compliments at school.
4. Society seems to be a little more accepting of 'childish' things nowadays, especially things like Sanrio. You can get cute trinkets and stuffies without anyone thinking much of it!
5. Watch kiddie shows. There are lots of kids' shows you can watch on Youtube. One of my favorites and one that I would recommend is 안녕자두야 [Hello Jadoo - it's available in English as well as other languages]. If you get the hang of switching taps, then this shouldn't be much of a problem. Watch it with headphones, at a low volume, or muted.
6. Lollipops and hard candy, along with chew jewelry, can be a great alternative for pacifiers. There are also discreet sellers on Etsy who sell pacifiers inside stuffed animals! Water bottles can also be used as an alternative to bottles and/or sippycups!
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Age Regression Guide
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