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JOURNAL NO. 3

Thoughts Behind Question Entry No.1

Have you you ever gotten(or given) a “compliment” that really wasn’t a compliment? How did you feel afterwards?

In this question. I have really experience gotten into situation where people gives me compliments but I felt like hindi naman s’ya compliment na maituturing. I will even drop the situations kung saan I recieved compliments and at the same I will drop my thoughts on it.

The reasons or my thoughts about it?

Una:
Hindi ko s’ya masyadong nakausap , I mean there is this someone na biglang nagcompliment sa’akin tapos I barely know her. She is familiar and kilala ko s’ya as student din sa school namin but I didn’t vibe with her talaga. I accidentally meet her in the canteen. Then she say “Hi.” and I smiled at her as a sign of greeting her back. She said na “ang ganda mo ngayon and also yung pagkakatali ng buhok mo.” I was like bakit yung buhok ko yung pinansin n’ya? At all parts of my body,alam kong yung buhok ko ang pinakapanget na parte ng katawan ko. I’m that type of person kasi na magulo ang buhok. Natural na magulo talaga s’ya due to some reasons. And my classmates are the one who do make a “hair do” sa’kin. I feel like it is somewhat a compliment but at the same it is not. Matatouch na sana ako dun kasi wow at last may naka-appreciate pa naman pala sa buhok ko kasi she said na “ang ganda mo ngayon” so kahapon pala nyan ay hindi ako ako maganda ganun?
And because of the first 4 words ,duda na ako kung genuine ba yung pagkakasabi n’ya na pati buhok ko maganda as of now. She just give me doubt and reason for me to not believe in her statement. Tapos hindi ko s’ya naging kavibe tapos biglang she talked about my hair and that is ano lang like ang random naman ng pagkakasabi n’ya nun. I feel like baka she seen me from afar but hindi n’ya ako nilalapitan. She just observe me siguro and do lait sakin or whatsoever man yan.

Ang sarap masabihan ng “maganda ka”,pero kung plastic naman nagsabi sa’kin nun. For sure sobra pa sa sinabi n’ya yung kagandahan ko.

Another thoughts or reason:

Pangalawa:
I have this classmate na sinasabihan akong “ang talino mo” oo I am aware na nakakagets naman ako sa discussion and madaling makacatch up sa lessons. I am an honor student but I am the type of person na hindi lantarang sinasabi na “honor student ako so matalino talaga ako” kasi sometimes may mga honor student nga pero they don’t give justice on it. Let’s just say na naging honor student ang isang tao because nangongopya and no one knows. May mga honor student din na naging honor because they always ask their classmates about “may sagot ka na? Tingnan ko lang para magka-idea ako.” Like they are not confident on their own answers,they don’t trust their own brain. They are dependent on their classmates na masipag mag-aral ,classmate na talagang literal na matalino talaga kahit pachill-chill lang. May mga ganung honor students. And minsan I was one of them, but kadalasan is I do trust my own brain naman,sobrang dalang ko lang tumingin sa papel ng iba para magka-idea. Usually ako yung victim ng “Patingin ng essay mo,kunan ko lang ng ideya.” and after that, they always compliments me that I am so matalino daw and hindi kagaya ng iba na blah blah blah. Yes,some people always do compare this one to that person when they give compliments. And that is so so wrong. The right action to be taken is compliment people without comparing them to another character.

Sakin kasi they do compliment me kapag may mabebenefit sila sakin, but if wala akong maitutulong? Maririnig ko nalang sa iba na “eh di s’ya na matalino,nakakain ba yan?” like it really sucks hearing that.

Kapag namimigay ka ng sagot,sasabihan kang ang talino mo pero kapag may times naman na hindi ka namimigay kasi abuso na sila, they will start to call you “grade conscious ” or they will start the smart-shaming thing. And I am the victim of that. That’s why I really do think na they compliment me nga but at the same time I feel like it is not.