Sometimes Forever Isnt Always Forever.

Infatuation defamation.

My dad answered the door, and there stood my 5"4 tall boyfriend standing in front of my 6"7 dad demanding to speak to me. My dad told him to go home but Ben demanded that I come to the door. He even had the guts to say that It didn't matter if he had upset me, or that I was crying because I was his girlfriend and that was okay. He treated me more like his property than his love. I don't know if it was courage or stupidity but you don't stand in front of my dad and demand something. Especially something so precious as his only daughter. To say my dad is protective would be an extreme understatement.

It took me a lot of nagging to get my dad to stop at the dress store one day so I could "browse" dresses. My mom and I walked in and something was calling to me at the back of the store. I bee lined it right to the very back and there it was. This beautiful sapphire/teal blue princess dress sparkling under the lights.  I was madly in love with it and I had to try it on. I slipped it on and it fit like a glove. It hugged my curves in all the right places and made me feel like a million bucks. 20 minutes of me asking nicely and being the daddy's girl that I am and it was mine.

By the time our grade twelve graduation came I ended up at prom alone. Jason had intended to escort me since Ben wasn't coming but we ended up in a fight shortly before. Something about him misunderstanding that I was still with Ben and he thought perhaps we were going as a couple. He wasn't speaking to me for several months after this, including prom.

Since I had no date and I was miserable about it my dad had to talk me into even attending. He dragged me out of bed and my mom and grandma took me to the salon to get my hair and makeup done. Then, we went back home so I could start getting dressed and my dad presented me with a corsage. My heart broke into a million pieces. No man had ever gotten me flowers and here was my dad asking me if he could be my date to prom.

Ben didn't pass his first attempt at grade twelve, so he knew he would have to go back in a year. He moved with his family three hours from the city to a lakeside property and was going to start attending a new school. I started my first year of college and It was hard to keep in touch, and eventually I got sloppy with hiding our relationship. My mom found out that I was still dating Ben and kicked me out of the house. I was 18 years old and homeless for about 2 hours. Ben's parents said I could live with them until he graduated High School. Ben wasn't due to be back in town for a week because he and his parents were vacationing in Cuba. I ended up couch surfing with friends a few towns over until I could catch a greyhound and make my way to my new home.

Life felt like it was back to normal again, Ben and I could be together and my parents couldn't stop us anymore. Although I loved my mom and dad, they still didn't understand how much Ben meant to me and they never would. My dad didn't speak to me anymore and the only one who accepted our relationship was my grandma. She used to make special trips out to see me to bring me clothes, and some of my stuff and make sure that I was okay. We lived at the lake for a year while Ben finished school. We did so many amazing things. We boated, we went tubing, we fished, we joined a dart league, we went swimming, I learned to waterski and wakeboard, we went shopping, we went hiking, we went quading.. and then it ended.

Ben was done school, prom was over, and his parents had been fighting a lot. We couldn't take living there any longer so we made plans to move back home.

We brought the kitten we had adopted a few months prior, and rented a house in a decent neighborhood in our old city again. We had our own family going and we were so proud of it. Ben had a hard time finding work, so I took extra waitressing shifts to support us. Rent and groceries were on me. At first I didn't complain, because the way I saw it, I was supporting a life I wanted. It wasn't until he took up online gaming and started ignoring me that I began to feel used and unappreciated.

Ben was addicted to this silly game. He would spend all day playing it and then not want to spend time with me when I was finally home with him. We had happy days, but the majority of our relationship was strained at this point. My dad was talking to me again but our relationship just wasn't the same. He refused to come over if Ben was there, and he and Ben never spoke.

After Christmas, we agreed to adopt a puppy. Our landlord was originally okay with it, until she changed her mind at the last minute and left us hanging with the ultimatum of get rid of the dog or move. After a long deliberation we agreed to move. I still worked double shifts to take care of our bills, and he still claimed to be looking for work. It took him 6 months after we moved to find a new job.

He now had the opportunity to make as much money as he wanted, all he had to do was work hard. He worked in sales and it would have been easy for him to start helping out more with bills. I too found a better paying job, and soon our lives were improving. We had our cat and our dog and we even added another cat into the mix.

Though we fought at times, we loved each other. I believed we were going to be together forever..it wouldn't be the first time I was wrong.