"My ex has a boyfriend and I want her back" - As a relationship coach, I hear this almost everyday, and if you're really serious about pursuing your ex even while she has a boyfriend, then read on. But first, answer these questions: Did you want to get back with your ex more than ever AFTER you found out that she has a new boyfriend? If you said, yes, proceed to the next question. Did she initiate any contact with you within the past month or two? If she did, then still have a chance with reconnecting with her.