Separate yourself from your crush. If you can, try to give yourself some breathing room away from the object of your affection. A lot of crushes are born of proximity, or simply being around someone who happens to be remotely likable. If you're not around this person as often, the crush might peter out on its own.
If you're crushing on a close friend: Make yourself less available. If you want to try to preserve the friendship, aim to spend as little time as possible with the other person right now without hurting his or her feelings. Or, if you trust your friend to respond compassionately, explain your problem and state that you just need a little space right now.If you're crushing on a mutual friend: If the friend of a friend is the problem, try to bow out of group social events gracefully. If you have to, explain the issue to your first friend so that he or she won't take it personally.If you're crushing on someone at school: Take this opportunity to work harder on your studies, and distract yourself from your crush. Every time you're tempted to think about him or her, open a book or drill flashcards instead. Take different routes to class or sit elsewhere at lunch if you have to.If you're crushing on a co-worker: Focus more on your work. For the time being, avoid group lunches, casual mid-day conversations, and events like happy hour.If you're crushing on someone you can't physically avoid: Mentally distance yourself instead. Being in the same room as someone doesn't mean you have to think about them, too. Think about whatever task you're doing, or daydream about all the awesome things you'll do someday — without your crush.
Meet some new people. If your crush is always hanging out in your current group of friends, try broadening your social horizons. Making new friends will distract you from your current misery, boost your confidence, and might even lead you to someone who's a better match for you. Here are some places to start:
Find people who share your hobbies. Love trivia? Swing by a few local pubs and ask about the next trivia night. Into writing? Look around online or inquire at local colleges to find a new critique group. Play sports? Search online for intramural leagues, or look up the local chapters of leagues like the World Adult Kickball Association. The possibilities are endless!Get involved in service. Volunteer at a local shelter, or contact an organization that champions a cause you care about, like humane treatment of animals or environmental clean-up. Attend a few service events and strike up some conversations with like-minded helpers.Take advantage of school or church groups. If you're already attending a school or church that offers extracurricular activities, get involved! Party-planning committees (like for Prom or church dances), choir, service groups, or sports leagues are all possibilities.
Take care of yourself. Use this time to step back and re-evaluate ways you can improve your own life, instead of devoting all that mental capital to your crush. You'll find a few distracting tasks to take care of, and you'll be bettering your own situation at the same time.
Give yourself a mini-makeover (even if you're a guy!): Is your wardrobe feeling a little stale? Have you had the same hairstyle for too long? Pick up a few new, confidence-boosting pieces for your closet, or investigate a new haircut or color. If you're not sure how to navigate your options, ask a particularly stylish friend or family member for help.Get organized. If it's been awhile since you've cleaned out your closet/car/garage/basement, get on it! Sorting through old junk can be a meditative process, and you'll probably feel relaxed and accomplished when you're done.Work out. Exercise clears the mind — when you're so focused on pushing your body, you can't afford to worry about much else besides breathing and moving. Take up running, swimming, biking, or another activity that can both improve your body and de-junk your mind.Practice positive self-talk. It sounds silly, but it really works. Look at yourself in the mirror a few times a day, and say whatever it is that you need to hear. It might be "You'll find someone better" or "No one is worth all this moping." Repeat it until you believe it.
Be wary of relapsing. Getting over a crush is hard work, and if it took you several months to become infatuated, it might take long to dig yourself back out. Accept that it's a process, and plan ahead so you won't be derailed by a sudden relapse. Here's how to deal with one:
Realize that you don't see this person realistically. Limerence, or the overwhelming feeling of infatuation that you feel around your crush, can throw you out of logical thinking patterns and make you idealize your crush. Repeat to yourself that no matter how you feel, no one is perfect, not even your crush, and recognize that you are intentionally overlooking his or her flaws.Treat it like a substance addiction. You wouldn't point a recovering alcoholic toward a bar, so don't put yourself in situations where you're tempted to fuss over your crush. Steer clear of intimate situations and avoid frequent contact, even if it's over text or chat and not in-person.Don't just transfer your feelings to a new target. Finding a new person to attach all your feelings to is another form of relapsing — you might not be crushing on the same person, but you're feeling the same emotions. Making someone your substitute isn't fair to them, because you're not seeing them for who they are, and it's not fair to you, because you're allowing yourself to fall back into the same cycle.
Avoid becoming bitter. Demonizing your crush might help you get over it in a short-term way, but it's not a long-term solution. Here's the problem: thinking about how much you hate someone is still a way of obsessing over him or her, so you're functionally stuck at square one.
Don't make someone else responsible for your happiness. Sure, maybe your crush didn't respond to your affections like you had hoped. Maybe he or she even made it worse by teasing you or flirting incessantly, knowing full well how you felt. But whatever happened, the only person charged with making you happy is you. You're responsible for taking yourself out of a bad situation and moving forward, so don't hold your crush accountable for making you miserable.Try to wish him or her all the best. If you truly care about someone, you want to see that person find happiness — even if it's not with you. Resist the urge to become angry or start making comparisons if your crush starts dating someone else. Try to cultivate a spirit of being happy when the people you like are happy.
Make a list of bad things about your crush. This is quite tricky but very effective when done and understood in the right way. Your crush caught your eyes for all the good qualities you saw on him/her. Now you have to reverse it. You may think at first that your crush is "so perfect" but no, everyone has their share of flaws and that is what you have to keep in your mind. Time to stop dreaming.
Think deeply about your crush and find as many ugly characteristics as you can find. List it down on a piece of paper and read it repeatedly. When you see him around, do not look at the good. Remember everything you wrote and don't lose focus.Don't blame yourself on it not working out. If they don't see you in that way then its not your fault , its how they feel . Don't make yourself feel worthless because of the way they feel about you. Remember someone out there loves you for you.Don't tell them you love them if you know for sure that they only want to be friends. Doing this could damage the friendship beyond repair.If you've never talked to your crush, grab all the courage you have, and go for it. This may ease your feelings, as the way the person treats you will probably redefine the ways you feel. At least it will both give it a chance to work.Don't ditch a friendship. If you've developed a major crush on a friend, try not to ruin a good friendship. Still be friends with them. Once you do get over them, you'll be glad you are still friends. Be thankful for the wonderful friendship you have instead of obsessing about what's not going to happen.Give other guys a chance to date you. He's not the only guy in the world. But more importantly - live your life, don't let him take away all your happiness.Try avoid seeing him a lot and keep your distance so you won't be in the same place you started.Remember that if your crush doesn't like you then it's his or her loss, and there's someone out there waiting for you who is actually worth it and likes you.Have some self respect. Know that you're worth it and that just because this relationship didn't work out doesn't mean that there isn't someone out there for you.Remember that a crush is just a short term thing. It's not like you're going to get married. In the future you'll find someone much better and more compatible; someone who cares for you more and shows affection. Who knows, what if your crush is actually a jerk and you weren't meant to be. So wait for someone better to come along.Avoid getting into another serious relationship too soon. Date for fun, date someone you normally wouldn't have been interested in and have some fun as a single person. There may be people out there who want to be with you and that will help you move on and feel better about yourself.Move on. Don't let yourself get stuck in the past. Seeing other people may help.Know the difference between love and shallow infatuation ("crushing" on someone.) Sometimes, it's worth hanging on to a relationship or potential relationship, but you have to let yourself recognize when it's time to move on and pursue other relationships.Don't talk about him even to your friends. If you talk about how much you like them, you might end up liking them more.Tell yourself all the things you don't like about him/her.Just forget and move on.It hurts to learn that your crush doesn't like you back. This would be a good time to hang out with friends and family, who actually care about you to soften the blow a bit. Don't worry, you will eventually get over it!
Don't punish yourself to try to numb the pain. You don't want to start overeating, drinking or hurting yourself just because your crush doesn't like you back.
Never drunk dial your crush. You'll only end up making the person uncomfortable and embarrassing yourself in the process.