Stay Strong <3 (helpful tips for everyday life)

Coming out

Well for some this task is easier than others, for others they don’t want their parents to ever know. Either way it’s nerve wracking.. I personally won’t deal with this but I still want to help people out with it.. Anyway, some parents take this better than others, some will completely disown you some will embrace it… but the thing is if you love someone you shouldn’t be afraid to let everyone know. Yes it’ll be scary at first to tell people, you probably will be judged but who cares? If the person you love makes you happy who cares if you are both the same gender? I personally hate that gay marriage is banned in some states, I think that everyone should be treated equal.. Sadly not everyone feels the same, so you’ll have to fight for your right. Just like Martin Luther King Jr. and Rosa Parks stood up for equal color rights. This is 2014, a bunch of states are popping up legalizing gay marriage. Eventually the state you are living in probably will legalize it. But you can’t just sit back and wait for it to happen, if you want it fight for it. Even if you personally don’t get the outcome for you your future offspring will, the future people of that state will. And they’ll love you for it.

Back on track to coming out, sorry if this sucks or doesn’t work…  I’m just going to make a list, if it’s specific for a religion I’ll put it in there.  Note: I don’t know religions very well so maybe something that’s for Christian religion could work for another religion.

~ If I were to come out to a Christian family I would say ‘well God made me this way’ because he did. He made me not be attracted to the opposite gender.

~be honest with whoever you are telling, you’ve already told them part of it so why not tell them the whole thing.. You wouldn’t want to buy parts to a puzzle would you? You would want it all. So just tell them everything.

~tell a friend/ trusted person- they will be your “practice” person I guess you can say. Plus they can support you out as you progress with coming out to your family.

~Answer questions you think they will ask before you ask them- Instead of just saying ‘I’m gay/bi’ tell them a little bit about how you’ve been feeling for a little while and then ease into it.

~IF you’ve dated the other gender you could say something like ‘I know I’ve dated the opposite gender but I just don’t have the feelings.’

~Be understanding- You’ve been preparing this probably for a while and your parents may not have. So it could come as a shock depending how well you ‘hid’ it for the years.

~Your parents may also say some hurtful things, don’t take it completely serious, they haven’t let the idea ‘sick in’ yet.  

~when you are talking to your family if you aren’t ready for your other family to know then TELL THEM. Otherwise they may tell other family just because some families like to know what’s up with everyone.

~Don’t be afraid (I know easier said than done) – but if you live your life in fear, you can’t live a happy life. Life is meant for living, not cowering in fear. Eventually your parents/family will find out, it’s better for you to tell them then for them to hear it from someone else.

~letting your family know can create change in your life.. Whether it be good or bad. BUT if your parents aren’t as open to the idea then maybe if you’re old enough you can live with your partner. Maybe your partner’s parents are more open to the idea and you can stay there.

Quotes:

~I’m a supporter of gay rights. And not a closet supporter either. From the time I was a kid, I have never been able to understand attacks upon the gay community. There are so many qualities that make up a human being… by the time I get through with all the things that I really admire about people, what they do with their private parts is probably so low on the list that it is irrelevant. -Paul Newman

~Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim.

Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.  -Harvey Fierstein

~Gender preference does not define you. Your spirit defines you. ― P.C. Cast, Awakened

~The beauty of standing up for your rights is others will see you standing and stand up as well. ― Cassandra Duffy

~People think that LGBTs adopting children will hurt them, but it's not being in loving homes that hurts children most. ― DaShanne Stokes

~I believe that marriage isn’t between man and woman it’s between love and love― Frank Ocean

~be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind ― Dr.Seuss

~love is to beautiful to be hidden in the closet

~Why is that as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? ―Ernest Gaines

~Even IF being gay was a choice.. so what? People choose to be asshole and they still can get married

~You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender- people are people

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Author’s note: I did not mean to offend anyone with this. If I did please private message me and explain why it’s offending and I’ll take that part down right away.

 

I support all equal rights, someday maybe it’ll happen, you just have to work for it..

 

I’m here for anyone if they want some help, or you can tell me what you’re going to tell your parents in a private message. I won’t judge you, I won’t tell anyone. I’ll just support you. Good luck!