prioritizing YOU.

extrovert or introvert?

what makes you an extrovert or an introvert?

you NOT being able to find comfort in talking to strangers? or you clicking with anonymous people?

let's be honest, nowadays we have started categorizing people as extroverts or introverts before even getting to know them we already assume that if a person is an extrovert or an introvert for you to be learning them. 

A person can indeed be an extrovert or an introvert but they can always open up if THEY want to, I have come across extroverts who joke around and do all the fun but when it comes to their personal life, they like to keep it to themself. whereas some introverts get comfortable in an hour or so and they open up! the point is we crib about not being able to decipher ourselves. being yourself is easier than choosing between the two of them every day. sometimes you don't feel good and don't want to interact with anyone, but that doesn't nearly make you switch your personality into being an introvert, and vibing with everyone around doesn't make you change your thinking and reconsider yourself as an extrovert. You just have to be yourself and live like YOU every day without thinking of putting a tag on your personality.  you do things or make decisions according to the situation not because you are supposed to be an introvert or an extrovert.

let me add to the topic with my personal experience in this particular subject, so ever since I was a kid I used to speak my thoughts out and used to talk a lot and people told me to put a limit on my words and so much more they tried to always comment on my activities, and me being the I would never listen to anyone person I ignored them for the longest time I could remember but then came in the teenage which made me question my personality for a miserable amount of time and there were times when I used to think why am I not an introvert and why can't I be quiet or decent in life for once because as long as you are a kid, anything you say or do is still considerable but when you grow you can't do that anymore which is pathetic of how our society thinks about it but it is what it is and we can't do anything about it.

I remember when I tried to change myself and started acknowledging myself as an introvert who doesn't talk that much and is in her own circle and people were not able to digest me because all my life they saw me bubbly talkative and whatnot they wanted me to speak but I couldn't they wanted me to take me out of my silence but I realized it was all on me. I was becoming someone who I was not and I had to drop the play and be more me than who people wanted me to be. I realized being me is more important than being someone who I THINK is better, I realized how I was categorizing myself into places that weren't supposed to be for me. Everybody has some issues be it an extrovert or an introvert but we tend to look only at the problems of our lives because we see everyone else look so happy being who they are, we are rather influenced by their personality than creating our own self and being the person we truly give a chance to love.

I won't say that a person can't be an introvert or an extrovert but troubling ourselves for not knowing who we are isn't fair either, you don't have to judge others for being an extrovert or an introvert either, everywhere I go people think before greeting others as if how would they react or will they match your energy level, are you guys alike on basis of personality. we don't have to choose for others either, we just need to be ourselves.

Breaking into some of the stereotypes, like introverts are bad at taking risks, speaking their thoughts out, or standing up for themselves, but that's far from the truth some of the introverts are the best at it,  whereas we think some of the extroverts are always confident and comfortable around being with anyone, or that they are very loud and are always fun to be around. Let us be clear that these are clearly stereotypes which puts us into a very judgmental mentality about the person in front or a group of people, we tend to pick on others' personalities so much that we forget the fact that we are all just human beings who can not be happy all the time or might be having a bad day which puts us into a bad mood for the rest of our day, and we all can start the next day with a better mood being ourselves not talking to strangers but giving them a smile which makes their day.

have a great day, thank you for reading.