Since the trailer was recently released, I've had a flood of people ask me if I will go see it. Short answer? NO.
LONG ANSWER:
It is NOT depicting a healthy BDSM relationship. It IS an abusive relationship.
I just hope audiences will stop to listen to people who are actually a part of the BDSM community when we say, “THIS IS NOT HOW IT WORKS.”
As a person who has done their research, I am very protective of subs, and I don’t want any of them to think that this kind of relationship is healthy. BDSM is safe, sane, and consensual: always. If it isn’t, it’s abuse. Fifty Shades is about abuse, plain and simple. I don’t care what the author calls it; it—is—abuse.
Please, please, please, if you are thinking of joining the BDSM community, do not use Fifty Shades as a tutorial or a guide. Talk to people in the community. Don’t let yourself be beguiled and bamboozled by abusive people masquerading as doms. Don’t let anyone tell you that Fifty Shades is an accurate representation of BDSM. Don’t let anyone tell you that BDSM is abuse.
