Whispers in the Wind

invalidation~~

btw being constantly invalidated is so much fun!! phrases i hear frequently:

"they isn't a singular pronoun" unless you want to learn the rules of xe/xen/xem i suggest you let me use the they/them/their you're familiar with 

"it's okay, you'll pick a gender sometime" agender is already a gender. already has the word gender in it c'mon folks

"don't worry you'll find a person you'll eventually love" i jUST SAid i haVE NO ROMAntic ATTRactION ArE yoU sERiOus

"you made that up. there's no such thing" okay. and even if i did make it up i'm comfortable with it. is that bad??? you want me to have dysphoria and low self esteem the rest my life because you force me to be someone else????

living in a heteronormative cisnormative society can be hard like. oh my god just because you specifically have never felt that before doesn't mean there are others who actually do feel that way.

and can we please not treat people who aren't cis/hetero/a binary gender like they're some kind of non human or something. p LEASE

also man, i get really bummed out sometimes

whenever i ask people to use they/them/their pronouns for me they always go "okay...it'll be hard" and shit 

and whenever they do mess up my pronouns i try to act like it doens't matter or anything but holy shit i'm dying inside

sometimes i just wanna go "wow this is hard for everyone maybe i should go back to the binary pronoun i used to use" but i can't even do that. being called that for almost 15 years was hard. i accept myself much more than i did before, and it was those same they/them/their pronouns that did it

it's too hard for me to go back, but it's hard for everyone else to move foreward.

sometimes when people do call me by my original pronouns i just want to go "no, you're wrong. it's they" but i'm just so fucking scared 

i'll do it next school year maybe. by then i'll have a binder and a more reasonable grip on my self