Life advice from someone who's still figuring it out

Independent Bitch

I grew up with God at the center of my home. I was taught give God your pain and he'll return growth. But anytime I prayed the only answer I got was "you know how to get through it"

And I did

If God does exist he knows what he's doing. I'm an independent bitch and I love it. At first, I felt abandoned and then I realized. I'll never be the person I want if I rely on someone every time I need help

Leaving my religion was one of the hardest and best things I ever did. I've always been the type to make my own rules but for so long I thought that I was being taught how I was really supposed to live. Now I'm not saying leave your religion. Religion is great. But make sure you're in it for you. Make sure it makes you feel absolutely amazing about yourself. Don't ever let them tell you God doesn't love you because he would not have created you if he didn't love every single little part of yourself. You are perfect. But let me just tell you. I got in a really depressed state. To the point where I said fuck it. Send me to hell. So did everything I was told not to. And for a while, it made everything worse, but then everything got better. Like I was used to breathing through a straw and all the sudden I could breathe fully. Because when I was told my body was sacred and I had to hide it I hated it. But once I started to show it off I became so fucking confident. And when people told me I should feel guilty for drinking alcohol, having premarital sex, and freeing myself, I felt bad for them. Because you should never feel guilty about choices that don't harm others. Self-discovery is not a written out path. Everyone's path is different and you write it as you go. So let yourself go for a minute because you deserve it.

Be an independent bitch. The only person you'll always be able to rely on is yourself. And you know what's great about that? You can move across the fucking country and still have your best friend right by your side. Hell, you can move to a whole new country, not even know the language and be just fine. You can do it. But there's a catch. Because it's hard being your own best friend and your own lover. It takes unconditional love. It takes lots of self-confidence. It takes telling yourself the truth instead of just what you want to hear. Be your own best friend but be a good one

Please please please love the hardest person to love. It's crazy to believe but before you make the commitment of marriage (if you decide to at all), before you have children (if you decide to at all), the most importnant person in your life is you. If you get married and have kids you are still very important to, but your kids and husband or wife are just as important as you are. But while you can still focus on you. Do it.

The biggest regret I hear everyone say is they didnt live life full enough. They didn't do everything they wanted to do. They stayed in their comfort zone afraid of change. Go on that dream vacation. Put yourself out there. Kiss your crush. Dance on the table. If you fully love yourself there's no way people wont love you too. You really can get away with anything as long as you do it with confidence.

Ok now let me put a disclaimer in here. Street smarts are so so so important. I would even argue way more imortant than book smarts. Live your best dream life, but be smart. Do not go into debt. If you want it bad enough you will find a way. But debt is seriously a black hole. It always gets bigger and most of the time peole die still in debt. Also dont steal. If it's not yours don't take it. And plase do not sell your body for money. Being confident is amazing. But there's a difference between showing it off and selling it. People who pay to have sex with you or to see you naked disrespevt your body. They act as if they own it for a while. The only person that owns your body is you. Remember you're more than a pair of boobs. You need to take care of your most valuable asset. Which are you? Number 3 friends dont let friends do drugs. Smoke some weed. Drink some alcohol as long as you're responsible, but never ever ever do street drugs. I am a hospital worker. My brother was an addict. I've done it all. I've seen the best side and the worst side of drugs. With the best side always comes the worst. You sell yourself when you take drugs. Don't ruin the one life you have. Own your body. You own your choices and you dont want that taken away when you decided to try a drug. And last never hurt anyone in the process of loving and finding yourself. Respect everyone's boundries. Both physical and emotional harm are not ok. Everyone is at a different part of their path. Everyone is fighting hard battles you can never imagine. Never be a roadblock in someone's life. Help them climb their mountain and chances are in return they'll help you climb yours. I was once told the only way you reach your goals is if you help others reach there's first.