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Pregnancy- The first trimester

After two pregnancies I guess I can share my thoughts on what happens. I've seen so many blogs about so many different moms but didn't really find much that i could relate to.
It's probably because I haven't really found an Indian Mom who wrote throughout her pregnancy.
I've also seen blogs with week to week updates, I don't know if it's just me but I don't think my pregnancies were that eventful. As per me pregnancy is rightly divided into three trimesters and that's how I'll write this.
Before we delve into this you should always remember how every child is unique, every pregnancy is different. My first pregnancy is very different from my second. So things I experience might not happen to you and something's you experience might not have happened to me. Once we've gotten that clear let's begin.

So the day has finally arrived. The two pink lines are here. You're happy, surprised, relieved, shocked, excited, nervous but mostly all of the emotions above at once. You've fallen down in shukur on your prayer mat. Cried in gratitude to the creator. Selected your gynaecologist , taken the first scan. Now what?
And the extensive Pinterest search begins.( at least that's what I did)
And there you come across so many many new terms!
Pregnancy announcements, maternity clothes, baby registry, gender reveal, and many more.
Confused. That's how I felt.
Further researched revealed this

Pregnancy announcement sounded fun. But it's purpose would be served only if your mom hasn't already told the entire family, neighbourhood and strangers.
Even if you do plan on announcing your pregnancy most people like to wait till the first trimester is complete. Also, correct me if I'm wrong, I've read that in islam while the birth of your child has to announced, it's not necessary to inform everyone of your pregnancy.

Baby registry is another term that'll pop up often. It's a list of things you want for your child that your loved ones can refer to while gifting. It's very convenient, if everyone who wants to gift you refer to it, then you won't have any repeats and you'll get things you actually want and might use. I really hope that this catches up in our place too.

Maternity clothes. This is something that will come of use when you start showing. If you wear more of ethnic clothes then this is not something you'll need to invest much in.
Most clothes will fit you and if it doesn't your tailor can work his magic on them.
I bought maternity pant in both my pregnancies. The first I bought jeans( there weren't many other options) and second I bought palazzo. Both had the band that supports your stomach. I found it extremely comfortable. Just remember while buying  new tops or getting them stitched to make sure there's a front opening to help while feeding.

Gender reveal parties are out of the question since prediction is illegal ( but that doesn't stop every aunty you come across try to predict what you're carrying). Don't try to find out. Let it be a surprise. And don't wish for a certain gender either. Remember Allah has already decided what you'll have and it's the best for you.

There were many more things that I couldn't really relate to ( that's what mainly led me into writing this blog). But I've realise that there's no point worrying about all this.

The first three months of pregnancy or the first trimester is probably the most delicate period. There are so many changes going on in your body at such a high rate it's quite normal for your body to react in different ways.
Everyone knows about morning sickness but everyone whose been pregnant knows that morning sickness doesn't happen only in the morning.
For some mornings are the most nauseous time while for others it may be the least.
In my experience I didn't have severe sickness during my first pregnancy but in my second I had nausea throughout the first trimester.
Like I said every child is different so every pregnancy is different.

In my first pregnancy i was hungry, a lot. Something that happened to me the second time around was inability to eat. The severe nausea could be a reason for it. But there were days when the only thing I could digest was water. And I'm pretty sure once I vomited water out too.
If it happens to you too, do not ever let that stop you from eating. It's okay if you have to run to the toilet as soon as you eat. Do not go without eating, you don't have a choice, even if you don't want to eat you have to eat for that tiny being inside you.

The first trimester is critical time of pregnancy. You are advised to take rest and to NOT FALL SICK. Obviously falling sick is not really something anyone has control over but do not tempt fate. Keep yourself as healthy and hygienic as possible. This is the time to follow all the rules in the book. Take your gynac words seriously and make sure you clear all doubts through them and not assume things.

It's probably going to be a difficult time not just with the physical changes but also emotionally. Your emotions are going to be all over the place.
During my first I was very emotional. Anything and everything made me cry. The fact that I was newly wed just getting used to married life when I got pregnant also might have something to do with it. My husband was so confused with my reactions and at times he would scold me and funnily that is exactly what I needed!
This time I feel much more in control of myself. Even though I have a toddler to take care of I have had much less breakdowns than last time. As soon as i saw those two lines, I gave myself a talk. I wasn't just a pregnant woman this time, I was also a mother. I Promised myself that i would take care of myself, my toddler and the one inside. Reminded myself that Allah trusted me to give birth and raise these children in sha Allah and that I could not doubt his confidence. Thinking about the bright side always helps, I know it's easier said than done but no one can stop you from trying, again and again.

I've always read that all symptoms will pass as the months go by but I don't think that really happens there are chances that you may  have nausea throughout your pregnancy. The difference will be that you and your body will accept it. You will learn how to handle it and it won't feel like a big deal at all.  

One suggestion I have that I regret not following myself is to keep a daily journal. It doesn't have to be an elaborate diary, but a simple bullet journal is enough. Write in it what were the symptoms you had, what worked what didn't. This will help you a lot in future pregnancies. In sha allah.

Remember that this is a beginning of a beautiful journey and you will always cherish this time when you have two hearts beating inside you.  So chin up, don't let that tiredness get you down and don't forget to pray for healthy children with love for Allah.

Author's note:
This is my first attempt at writing something like this. So comments are greatly appreciated. Votes would be extremely encouraging.
If you have something to add please tell me and also if you have queries feel free to ask. I am no gynaecologist or midwife. Everything I've written is from my own experience.
Also I might be editing into this post as I keep remembering things.
The next post in sha Allah would be about the second trimester.