In basic psychology there is a chart that shows the development of self-actualization. It was put together by Dr Maslow if you want to research lol At the bottom or base of the pyramid there is physiological needs like eating dsrinking breathing and such then safety and security needs. From the day we come out of our mothers womb we are thrust into feeling safe/unsafe. I remember a study done in one psych class about newborn monkeys and the differences between those who recieve constant affection and physical touch by their mother as opposedto those who are not given this affection and touch. The ones who did not recieve it showed signs of depression sickness and inability to handle stresses for their development. They felt unsafe.
All of us have to manage these 2 issues. Hopefully we will have major help along the way. Our parents had to do the same, as did their parents before them and so on. Cycles of dysfunction camn pass down multiple geneartions where to a huge degree internally we feel unsafe. Most of us find a way to cope and learn how toi cover our inner self by wearing masks. Feeling safe allows us to not need a mask.
Our relationship with our parents- safe or unsafe. Friends and other relatives- safe or unsafe. What we experience in just exploring the world either in school or work or just going different places- safe or unsafe.Sometimes it is hard to even think through these things because it is scary to face our own feelings of being unsafe. This is another major reason counseling is so helpful. It lets you communicate as intimatelky as you let yourself and feel safe and free to do so- no judgment upon you nor rejection.
Wattpad is a great place to test the waters, both by expressing ourselves in stories,poems,in our profiles and in conversations. It can be botrh sae/unsafe depending on trhe person- but it is safe to feel unsafe- if that makes sense- because it is done from your own space and allows you to refelct learn grow and make use of all experiences hopefully feeling safer each day.
