Celoteh Dino

Husband & Wife : Mobile Phone

Hi all

topik perbincangan kalini pasal handfon.
Well, semua sedia maklum yg handfon ni benda terlalu private, sensitif, cuma sorg tu je yg boleh guna, dan sgt susah utk diberi pinjam/guna. But the question is, dah kawin pun, can your spouse have full access to your phone? Password, dan the right utk guna, check, bila2 masa jer?

Ramai yg memberikan pelbagai pendapat, ada yg sokong, ada yang tak..

Dah kawin, luar dalam dah tahu, dah tengok segalanya, your private parts also no longer private, so benda apa yg private nya lagi dlm fon tu, sampai pasangan tak leh tgk?

Bagi yg setuju, katanya your spouse should have full control, of course one thing in their mind is loyalti & kecurangan.

Bagi yang tak setuju spoue ada full control, diorg akan cakap pasal kepercayaan, keyakinan, kematangan..

People give their opinion based on their personal experience.
Sapa yang melalui such experience mcm kena cheated on, of course cakap yg you need to be carefull of your s/o.
Sapa yang have a really good relationship bertahun2, their spouse is loyal, of course akan cakap, you need to trust your partner..

Both is true, have their own valid reason.

Ada satu pendapat yang menarik yg sy pernah baca, sy kongsikan kat sini..

" Even if you are married, its still no!
ok let me give an an example.
let say, kawan kita ada masalah peribadi dia. Dia cerita kat kita via whatsapp dan strongly told you not to tell anybody. Not a single soul. And its your responsible to keep it that way. kalau tersebar jadi aib kot. Jadi, takkan la every conversation nak kena delete. ada org bukan jenis mcmtu. Memang patut la dia kena delete just in case, tapi dia taknak delete pun takpa. yang hangpa p masuk converstation tu cari kt situ buat apa, bangang?!
jadi even your wife/husband tak boleh tahu kalau si tuan punya badan tak bagi kasi tahu. not everything you can share you know.
As for galeri pulak, kalau ada gambar tak sempurna aurat. ada ke yg kata kalau tak sempurna aurat tak payah la tgkp gambar. hello, ni bukan utk sebar ok ni utk simpan2 sendiri je buat kenangan. contoh la kita suka tgkp gmbar family kita kt rumah bila balik jumpa fmaily sekali sekala. tgkp gmbar mak kita tgh masak, tgkp gmbar adik kita tgh tido dlm posisi yg melucukan, tgkp gmbar minum petang ramai2 kt depan tv. sesetangah org suka buat mcmtu. korg xbuat tu lantak la, bukan semua org sama mcm life korang.
dan kadang2 ada whatsapp pulak gambar lama oleh kawan2. xkira la msa tu kdg2 tgh dok tido dlm bilik bujang dgn boxer je ke ape ke...
Walaipun bukan aurat, tapi kene fair, sbb laki pun takleh tgk fon bini takut ada gambar kawan2 or family tak tutup aurat."

So, itulah hujah yg orang tu berikan... Pada saya ada juga logiknya..

But for me, personally benda ni ada pro & cons. Your spouse have the right untuk tahu ur phone lock password, but at the same time ada limit la. U need to ask first, tak boleh main guna je. Tak semestinya mcm minta persmission sgt, just acknowlegement, mcm gitaw je kat ur partner yg u nak tgk fon dia kejap... But gallery and chat (Whatsapp, telegram or apa2) is a big no. Tak boleh. Kecuali kena minta kebenaran dia, dan dia bg keizininan, with consent, baru boleh buka tgk.

Thats just me though... idk bout ya'all.. heck, i'm not even married. In relationship pun tak, haha, what do i know la kan?

So, kita bincangkan perkara ni, merancakkan hari rabu yang slow ni..
Hehe..