In this book we will be covering the following topics:
1. Understanding yourself so that you can understand those around you
2. Outlining what we can use to understand people around us
3. How different approaches can be used depending on how well you know a person.
4. The three elements of practical psychology.
Knowing Yourself
If you want to be able to really understand others, then you have to start by understanding yourself.
This better understanding of yourself will allow you to understand how internal processes work for yourself and for others. Understanding that some insecurities will change the way we behave will help us realize that this is true of others. You will be better able to understand the way that an insecurity shows itself through self-effacing body language and lack of eye contact. All body language is an expression of an underlying self-belief.
The material in this book will be applicable to you on an introspective level as much as it will be about understanding others better. If you find that you are struggling to understand other’s behaviors, then you may just have problems understanding your own internal processes. Learning to see these processes’ outward expressions will allow you to start really understanding yourself. You will have to be able to come to terms with some of your own fears, insecurities, and prejudices if you really want to understand others.
If you don’t try to see your own actions, then anything you see about other peoples will come through the lens of your fears, insecurities, and prejudices without any conscious thought on your part. This will be a false image and will make understanding others even more difficult. Being able to understand yourself will also allow you to see the effect (direct or indirect) you have on those around you. Understanding what kind of effect you are having will depend on how well you can see yourself. It will also depend on your significance to that person, how you communicate, and how you present yourself. All these things will change how the people you interact with behave.
For example, if you act stern, formal and in a disciplined manner, then those around you will adjust their communication style to suit how you act.
If you behave happily and with a lot of laughter, this will change how everyone else acts in a different way.
Getting a handle on analytical skills will benefit every part of your life; it won’t
matter if you’re using those skills at work or in your romantic relationship. It
will take a lot of work, especially for those that are not naturally analytical, but it can improve so much that it’s worth it.
You will be able to alter how you look at
yourself and improve how you connect with others. But there are many other
reasons why analyzing people will be a benefit in the end.
You will become self-aware
An analytical person (AP) doesn’t mean that you only take the time to analyze other people. In the beginning, you will be analyzing yourself. This self-analysis will allow you to be more aware of your own emotions and less confused about the way you feel.
This may make some of your actions more explainable to you.
Those that are self-aware find that it’s less of a challenge to turn negative
thoughts into positive thoughts, to adjust how they view themselves, to accept
themselves, and to live honestly.
Getting to know yourself will allow you to truly live genuinely and happily with others.
You will appear more considerate
