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My name is borrowed from familial ghosts, women that I have never met and whom I know little about. I was named after the woman who died days before I was born, my great-grandmother, my parents hoping I would be a reincarnation of her. I fear they are disappointed. I am not a traditional woman, a timid woman, a woman with numerous children and grandchildren that carry her memory on through me.

As a child, my name was a special gift. However, as the years went by, I grew bored of it. My first, middle, last names are all recycled, yanked off of gravestones before being bestowed upon me. The unoriginality sometimes stings, especially in a building where the mere mention of it will turn 5, 6 heads, but I remind myself I must carry this burden for the rest of my life.

My name is a Hebrew name, which masks my rich Dutch heritage. The biblical meaning behind it feels fake when bestowed upon me, for I unwittingly rebel against the religious relatives who look down upon my queerness, upon my disbelief in a white-bearded man. The mask is only lifted when other bestow other names on me...and even with those, I feel as though I must uphold some type of image.

There are endless nicknames - all so linked to and different from their mother. They are the children that put a dimple in my smile, coax a laugh from my lips, and help me forget my grandmother mask. I hope to find balance between the four, and eventually find a name that defines me better and makes me feel whole.


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