I have a question for you all, and would love to hear outside opinions...
My mother passed away recently, and I cut contact with her three years ago, as did other siblings. When she got really sick in the last few months, they changed their minds, and got back in touch with her, but I still refused, wanting nothing to do with her, didn't even want to see or talk to her.
We all cut contact in the first place for our own reasons, mine being what she said to me when I was pregnant on my youngest... "you clearly don't care I got cancer! I hope you suffer and die", while my oldest was in the room, hearing that call and what she said. (At the time, I was suffering a horrific pregnancy, and yes we almost died)
When she died, my oldest shrugged it off, after how she had treated him, and hearing what she had said, he didn't want anything to do with her either (his choice, not mine)
My sister, has made it very clear, it doesn't matter that I'm his mother, she is coming to my house, and she is going to drag gim to that funeral whether he wants to or not, even though he's told her constantly for the past two weeks, he doesn't want to go. She's tried guilting him into by saying all the other kids in the family are going (all younger than him) and she needs him there. He's terrified of her now and angry, he even told his teachers and everyone who will listen, he doesn't want to go.
So, my question... What would you do?
I've told him if he wants to go, that's fine, that's his choice, whatever he wants to do, but he keeps saying no. He didn't even cry when I told him she passed, just said ok, and went back to bed to watch a film.
