"Trying to make your loved one's better version of themselves" and "accepting your loved one, exactly the way they are"
These two things are good choices individually
You don't have to feel that you're a bad person because you do the first but someone else does the second
Or
You don't have to feel that you're spoiling your loved one's future, by following the second one, while some other does the first one
It's you, who just has different perspective and personality from the other people'
But
"Everything is upto limit, going without limit for one individual option in here, is wrong"
If you're the first option follower, implying this limitless, may make your loved one insecure of their own own personality
And if you're second option follower, implying that limitless, might make your loved one, go on wrong path
Everything is nice upto an limit