Training rewrite

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"I want to be trained" These words are wonderful and exciting to hear. They show desire, they promise fun, and they speak of trust and honor. But what does it mean to Me to train a submissive? It is far more than instructing a girl on My expectations, or making her a good "generic slave" (there being no such thing). It is also never a one-way flow of information or learning. Whether submissive or Dominant we all need to come to terms with what we like, why we like it, what it means about us, what it means about our partners and what it will mean for our relationships. . Training can help a girl find her limits, hard and soft, and determine what level of submission and erotic power exchange she needs and enjoys. Is she a "brat" who wants to misbehave and be soundly disciplined? Is she a "good girl" who is eager to please and hates to be found misbehaving? An experienced girl needs less of this "trying out" but it is still required to confirm mutual understanding when she communicates her needs. When she says, "I like severe discipline, but not humiliation," what does she mean? . I believe training is also the way in which a Dominant shows a submissive "This is how erotic power exchange will be with Me." At the same time I am learning what kind of submissive she is and whether she will meet My needs both physically and emotionally in this sphere. . To wield power over someone you must understand them. The more power is used, the more spontaneously and dramatically, the more often, the more understanding is required. Otherwise that power will not be used well and rightly. Training is part of how a Dominant learns the initial outline of a girl's needs, enough to build upon later through constant further learning and mutual growth. Also a good Dominant is flexible on some points. . Training is about learning the technical details of My expectations. If I say "First position" or "kneel up," what do I mean? . It is also reaching an understanding together of how the relationship will work. What will be between two people is never dictated only by one. It is the combination of the two and their needs. . Training can also mean retraining. What will be between two will also not be what has been between any other two. Whether good or bad, there is a human tendency to recreate or replay what has been familiar - even if it is not what would be best. We try what worked before, and we repeat the same self-defeating behavior, until we learn to recognize it. Training can be a means, for a submissive at least, to start something new. My own view is that it is desirable in relationships if the Dominant also approaches things differently each time, both to assure his slave she is not being made into a replica of someone else and to condition Himself to be with someone new. . "Bad" habits may need to be abandoned and new ones learned. "Bad" may mean truly troubling and disturbing, ultimately unhealthy, or simply not the best way - and sometimes best is simply "new." It is always best if what is created is unique. The special name I give you will not have been given to another; the true collar I affix to your neck will never have graced another girl's and the particular ways and means you please Me will be yours alone. . Training can also be undertaken specifically to introduce particular acts or toys to erotic play, and to create a particular role, such as pony girl. A girl who has never engaged in any form of anal play may be gradually introduced to it through "anal training." . While it can be fun, it can be tiresome if most new activities were formalized in this way, but if a girl has issues to work through and wants help working through them the structure of "training" can help do this gradually, and can give a sense of accomplishment. Here are the general areas that good training for a girl should cover. . - Personal Hygiene - a girl is always clean and fresh, hair well kept (where she still has it) - Proper Speech - knowing proper forms of address, proper protocol and to please by sound alone. - Deportment - grace should be evident in how she adopts and keeps any posture, in positioning and in her dress. - Etiquette - knowledge of precedence and how to deal with better and equal. . Now, when a girl has mastered all of those, she is suitable to have as a submissive. For with such a girl, a Master has an elegant and desirable companion, one he knows will bring him credit. . The medium of training is also an important reflection of the emotional side of the relationship. Most girls want not only physical play but the emotional nurturing that is part of any good relationship. Those seeking a Daddy as well as a Dominant may also find comfort in the concept of guidance. . The role of teacher is a familiar embodiment of authority that is benevolent, intended for your welfare, and seeking to improve and strengthen you. This expresses, in many ways, the role of Master and slave in My mind - including the fact that a teacher may find himself learning from an exceptional student, and such students are a pleasure to teach - worth many hours of extra-curricular activity.