When I'm 64 what stories of my youth will I tell my grand children:
When I'm 64 I would love to have fulfilled all of my ambitiouns and dreams. With all the time of leisure I'll have at that point of my life, I would like to share my experiences with my grandchildren, hopefully those advices and stories will help them just like my grandparents’ advices helps me.
From my childhood I have been told this particular thing: “Grades, marks- they don't really matter, what matters is knowledge, but if you don't succeed to be a good human being, Nothing will matter in the long run.”
A good human being. I never quite understood what it meant back then and what exactly falls under that category. But think I may understand that now. I would tell my grandchildren to be a good human being. How to be one? All one has to do is be humane, be kind, be helpful and be just. Sure, a good human being must have many other qualities other than these, but these are some of them. I see numerous humans around me, but nowadays, so many of them lack humanity. If people stop being so cruel and so inhumane, this world can be such a better place.
I remember this incident from when I was probably eight, there was a terrorist attack somewhere, I don't remember where, but I do remember the conversation me and my grand father had while watching the news. I asked him that why people can't live in peace, why people had to kill others in the name of religion and why there were so many complicated problems just because of one's skin colour. My grand father, answered me by saying that all humans have a completely different point of view towards life, and others. Some people have a certain urge, a certain need to be absolutely superior to everyone, the greed, and the jelousy causes conflicts between people, with every passing days, some of theirs overwhelming ambition to be superior grows and they think that they must be treated as a king and others must obey them and stay under his feet. These results in bigger conflicts and ultimately those conflicts has led us to where we are now, with all the discriminations due to religions and skin color. I would like my grandchildren to know that skin colour, religions doesn't matter because we all are humans, we all are to be treated equally and no one has the right to judge anyone on the basis of those factors.
Another most important thing that I have learnt, and I would want my grandchildren to know, is that life is like a ‘rollercoaster’ with so many up's and downs. There will be so many times that things won't work the way we want it to work, and we will feel that as if nothing will get better, there will be so many challenging situations that we would feel that we won't be able to succeed. Yes, life is tough, hard times are inevitable. But, hard times will get over, good times will arrive and things will work themselves out, all one has to do is be patient, work hard and not give up. many people say that time changes things, but I believe that doing things changes things, not doing anything keeps things just the way they were. But of course, it's my opinion and people may think otherwise.
We don't always get what we want because this world is not a wish granting factory, but if we give up, we won't get anything. So I want my grandchildren to be determined, to be perseverant because when things gets rough and difficult, they need to stay strong.
When I was not more than ten years, I lost my grandfather. That was one of my saddest, most difficult and most challenging part of my life. I was so broken, and I felt that this is it. Things will never get any better. But then, my parents told me that I should be grateful because so many children don't even have the chance of spending time with their grandparents, but I had the privilege of doing so. My grandfather taught me so many things, he taught me how to be a better person, and how perfection has no accurate definition because things can always be better, he taught me how life is full of challenges, and how it's never okay to give up. Yes, I did think that I'll never be able to be happy again, but life goes on. I didn't forget him, I never will, our conversations still flash through my mind, and that encourages me to be a better person, just like he wanted me too be. I want my grandchildren to know that these kind of loss are meant to arrive in life, and they will, because no one is immortal, and when they do, things will be very rough, very challenging and very difficult, but I want them to be strong, it's going to be hard yes, but they must accept that fact, Remember that person, and try and be a better person because, I believe in this so much that, the ones that love us never really leave us and always stay with us.
And I just want my grandchildren to enjoy their life, it's the only one we all have. I want them to follow their dreams and take life as some sort of an adventure which brings something new everyday, an adventure where no one knows what the next step would be like.
These are some stuffs that I would like to tell my grandchildren, and just like my grandparents inspired and encouraged to be a better person I would like to do the same for my grandchildren.
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