Swiftdrawer's Thoughts

Undefined Status

They need to get the attention of whoever's making them mad without yelling at them and starting a confrontation. And when it comes to 18 and 19 year old adolescents, they especially have no excuse for treating adolescents like children. They need to take them seriously as fellow human beings. If they want adolescents to act like adults, they have to treat them like rational adults, not children. That's how we can begin to try to fix the undefined status of adolescents in society. Adolescents needs to be seen as people who are or have undergone many physical, mental, and emotional changes who need and deserve guidance to become better people without pressuring them to "act their age" or belittling and infantilizing them. Adults need to do better and actually have the emotional regulation adults should have. Many adults act like spoiled kids, just look at all of the Karen meltdown videos out there online.

Maybe their treating of adolescents as children is sometimes just self deflection. Maybe they treat them that way because they're afraid that other adults will treat them that way themselves. That's a common phenomenon that's seen in bully victims. Some bully victims bully others to suffer at the hands of harassment themselves less often. Some bullies bully because they're lonely and weak willed and they need to pick on others to have an addictive sense of superiority to give themselves a perceived value of self worth at last. This is a horrible way to develop any sense of self worth but it's an easy way because of how social environments for minors are set up especially at schools. Yes, I am telling you how you should treat adolescents. It isn't just to treat them as people who are undergoing many changes or needing guidance as I just said. It's also to give them respect if they have earned it, treat them with kindness when possible, help them when they need help, and treat them as equals.

Listen, you aren't superior to anyone even if you are a rich middle aged person who inherited a lot from the family fortune, have grown strong enough to lift 300 pounds, written 20 full length novels, or whatever else you can think of. There is no truth in seeing yourself as superior to others. Thinking of yourself as superior is just silly and arrogant. It's also unnecessary and a hinderance to true happiness, joy, kindness, inner harmony, and self worth and satisfaction. You can be awesome with tearing others down or seeing yourself as superior. If you're older than an adolescent, you aren't superior to them nor are you superior to little 8 year old kids. It's that simple. You must discard all feelings of superiority in order to live your best life and try to stop worrying about being better than anyone else. You don't have to be better than anyone else. You just have to be better than you used to be. We don't have to be competing about every little thing. Life isn't a competition even though society tries very hard to make it one, it's more like a chaotic state of survival constantly in flux.

Oh and you must discard feelings of inferiority too. From an objective perspective, it's virtually impossible to prove anyone is inferior or superior because there are just so many different traits and skills out there. Some people are just better at different things. I know some people can better tolerate annoying video ads on YouTube that are 20 seconds long and unskippable than I can. On the other hand, I know without a doubt that I'm better at storytelling than a lot of people are due to all of my experience doing it. One of the only valid uses of inferior and superior is through anatomical terminology as I learned in anatomy class senior year of high school. All of this connects back to society treating adolescents as kids while expecting them to act like adults. Adults who pull this crap feel superior to those adolescents to some degree, whether they realize it or not.

But they're not superior nor are they inferior. You can't measure or calculate stuff like that so it's better to not thinking of yourself as superior or inferior to anyone else. Avoid comparing yourself to someone else, just constantly strive to improve yourself and you will be better for it. You will be more confident as a result of adhering to this kind of way of living which is honestly a good ego stroker, let's be real. Just be careful about how much ego you have. You need some to be happy and enjoy life but too much means you're at least kind of a jerk. Too little and you're probably a people pleaser which is just as bad. It's so convenient to unleash your anger onto others or tell them you're better than them but that does more harm than good to yourself and others so please avoid doing either one. There will come times where you do have to use your anger in a social situation with someone else but you have to stay cool and resilient anyway. In a life or death situation where someone is trying to kill you, you have to act to defend yourself by any means necessary including channeling whatever anger you may be feeling in the moment.