How To Life

attempting to understand people

1. Dont be fooled by what tv tells you about people. For instance, they say that a person who scratches his/her nose may be lying. Some people may do that when they are lying but you wouldnt be certain. Sometimes when I lie, I sorta smile and this is unintentional so I start biting my lips to cover.

2. If you want to know if people are actually lying, look at their eyes. Our eyes are extremely powerful! For example: ask someone why he lost something and look at his eyes and his whole body. If he blurts it all out without taking the time to remember and his eyes dont wander around to remember what he had actually done, then he's probably making up a story or they bring up something totally irrelevant to try to make you forget that you actually asked the question.

3. Be a good listener. To deduce information out of anyone just listen and ask questions. You'll be surprised by what you hear.
To deduce secrets out of people. Act like you understand them and dont judge. This trick has benefited me alot and I have gained many close friends when I do that! You should start off by asking questions then you listen. Look deeply in the person's eye but dont be creepy then share something about yourself that's weird then wait and listen.

4. Everyone wears a mask to protect themselves from being misunderstood or judged. The key to getting what you want from people is to TAKE OFF YOUR MASK!

5. Sometimes people will make it obvious that they dont like you or are irritated by you. Dont be oblivious to the signs. If the person is not looking at you while you are talking but doesnt seem like he's thinking about something, then he's probably irritated by you.

6. When you are approaching a person and suddenly they take out their phone, leave instantly. That doesnt always mean that they dont like you but if you are blabbering about something and they aint showing you the slightest interest then leave.

7. I noticed that when someone is irritated by you and shows it but when you act like you know that and you stop giving them any attention, they actually come back and start talking to you. It's actually very weird but people hated feeling like they're disliked by someone especially when that someone is the person they disliked before! Weird, right?

8. People who take up the most space when sitting down are the ones you shouldnt really mess with. They're the ones that walk in a room and look directly to the place they want to sit in. They walk as if they're walking on air. Dont mess with them.
When you are a new comer to a group of people, please observe each one and you'll notice patterns. There is always the friendly person who introduces you to the group. Sometimes that's the same person who'll ditch you to be with the leader of the group. You'll also come across one who'll tell you all aboht each person in the group and he'll start whining about something he dislikes. Dont trust that person. The one paying you the less attention is the one who is the most powerful in the group.

9. Ask people for favours. They'll like you even more when you do because you'll make them feel important

10. Share things about yourself but be mysterious. People like an air of mystery!

11. Look at how a person treats their parents and siblings. This actually shows the parts of themselves that they tend to hide when they are talking to you

12. Sometimes when a person js irritated, they scratch themselves alot or tilt their heads. It depends on the person but you have to observe everything.

13. Dont judge a book by it's cover. Some people have a resting bitch face and they come off as cold or arrogant.