When God writes a Love Story

When God writes a Love Story (Learning Season)

Everybody wants to have a lifetime partner. God knows very well that the human heart is in need of a partner. He also knows very well that your heart will need a partner soon. God cares a lot for your relationship that's why He wants you to be well-prepared when it comes. Having a commitment with a person who was just a stranger to you before is difficult; there's no happy moments all the time. Everyday, your commitment to each other will be tested by the world, so you need to be well-prepared before you decide to say YES to a commitment. 

Why do we need to prepare? It's because we want God to give to us the best partner. And if you want the best partner in life, you should also be the best for that person.

To be well-prepared, you need to develop the following with a willing heart. These will never be easy at the start, but you need to do these. Your decision today will affect your future. If you want to have the best love story then you need to decide today-- not tomorrow or later. (Season 1: Learning Season)

1. Learn to work

- You need to learn to work. Evaluate yourself first: Can I cook? Can I wash clothes and dishes? Can I clean a house? These might be just simple works that you need to learn but most of the times you hate these. Do you still remember before whenever your mother asks you to do the house chores you would always complain? Change that attitude! You need to have a willing heart to do house chores because someday, you will clean a house lived by your family; you will wash dishes and clothes of your future husband and children; you will also cook for your family. Therefore, it's not going to be all about you soon. 

Another question is: Do I have a work as my source of income? You need to be financially ready! You cannot afford to take your girlfriend out on a date using your parents' money! So, you need a job. Face it.

2. Learn to wait

-You need to learn to wait for the right time. You should not demand God to give to you the partner that He is preparing for you at the moment. Instead of demanding and begging God about it,  pray for that person instead. When I was single, I would always pray for my future partner's health, safety and abundant life. It's kind of weird sometimes but it feels really good. I felt like I was already a part of my partner's life because of doing that. I even wrote a letter for him which I promised to give to him on our wedding day. It was funny that I wrote and kept a letter for the man I do not even know the name, address, age and background. But I could feel that even if I was single, God was already blessing my future relationship with my unknown man. God knows the right time for you so just wait; He will reveal the right person to you soon if He knows that you are all ready to meet him/her. 

3. Learn to be more responsible

-Everybody is responsible. But we need to learn to be MORE responsible. Once you are in a commitment, your partner is your responsibility already. You should not just care this time about yourself. You need to take care of your partner in every aspect of his/her life. Start adjusting your egocentric attitude from now on.

4. Learn to be unselfish

-We are all selfish in any way. Having a partner means giving up yourself. You need to be unselfish. If you are in a commitment, you should learn to give. Giving is one of the things that we hate because we don't want anything to be taken away from us. But in a relationship, you need to give and never expect for a return-- it should be an unconditional giving. Do not count who gave more and who gave less. The important there is you gave, you give and you will continue to give. 

5. Learn to trustworthy

-Having a partner is a big accountability. Having a partner is a message from God saying that He trusts you so much that's why He gave to you his/her child. You have to take care of your partner's body, soul and spirit. You should be a good influence to that person. Before God gives you an accountability, He will make sure first that you can be accountable of yourself. Fix yourself first so God can trust you. 

6. Learn to save

-Talking about money, you need to learn to save. You need this for your future. I know this sounds crazy, maybe, but it's a good practice. Saving money today for your future relationship is a manifestation that you are really serious about your lifetime relationship. 

7. Learn to enjoy being single

-This is the last one. You need to learn to enjoy being single. A lot of people today complains because they have been single for a long time. Do not forget that once you are in a commitment, you will never get back your life of being single. So, you have to enjoy this season. Date your friends, enjoy the company of your family, go out on a vacation, have fun to every celebration, meet a lot of people, eat whatever you want, go wherever you want, sleep more, treat yourself, and lastly, love yourself. You need to love yourself so it won't be difficult for you to love your partner. Your partner will never be perfect. Everyday you will discover his/her flaws and if you do not have enough love stored in your heart, it would be very easy for you to get discouraged. Being in a commitment needs a heart full of love because everyday, you need to fall in love with your partner. 

Always remember that your goal when you have a relationship is to be a blessing to your partner and not a burden. Today, you need to prepare yourself because if you do, God can guarantee you that He is also preparing your partner. You need to take care of yourself from now on. If you are broken, fix yourself. Never be in a relationship if you are not yet whole because you will be a burden to your partner when you meet soon. It's going to be very unfair. Do not date a lot of boys/girls and have your heart broken a lot of times. You don't want to give the least part of your heart so take care of it. Give the best part of your heart to your partner. So, be careful in choosing a man/woman at the wrong time. Always wait for God's time.