There is no perfect family. No matter how kind, religious, wealthy, or idk is a family, they're still not perfect.
A family is a group of individuals connected by blood, marriage, adoption, or strong emotional bonds. It provides support, and belonging, and plays a crucial role in socialization.
Families were created from the love shared between two people, and the decision to bring a child into the world rested in their hands. For these lovebirds, the arrival of a child signaled their initiation into the world of parenthood, a journey filled with uncertainty as they navigated the uncharted territory of raising a little one.
As first-time parents, they will stumble through challenges, well-aware that mistakes were inevitable in this newfound role. What made these mistakes particularly daunting was the realization that these mistakes could leave a lasting imprint on their child's tender mind, influencing them well into their later years.
It was a common sentiment among many that the eldest child served as the "lab rat" for parents. This was because, during the early stages of parenthood, they applied everything they knew (or thought they knew) about raising a child to their firstborn. It became an experimental ground where parents, armed with whatever knowledge they possessed, tested their parenting techniques. If they discovered that certain methods didn't quite work with the eldest, they vowed to refine their approach for the siblings who would follow.
It makes total sense.
Upon reflection, it seems unfair to point fingers at parents for what may be perceived as "wrong parenting methods" they employed in the past. As mentioned before, it's crucial to remember that every parent is a novice at some point, experiencing the trials and errors that come with their first journey into parenthood. Perhaps, in many cases, their approach to parenting mirrors the methods their own parents used with them.
"Generational trauma"
People tend to pass their traumas to the next generation. It may happen without them knowing, because it's just how it used to be. They tend to inflict the same pain they've gone through as a child due to lack of knowledge that they're not perfect and they make mistakes.
But still, they are still the authority, children don't have the right to question or be mad at them (unless of course, if they are being assaulted in any way). In this generation, I just think that teens or children are being too defensive of themselves. I am not saying that keeping quiet is the answer when you're being assaulted of anyone; it's just that, they think highly of themselves.
Adolescents, being in their teenage years, are still in the process of maturing. That's a given, considering they are, after all, teens and children. It's important for them to acknowledge that they don't possess all-encompassing knowledge and could benefit from guidance. Within their generation, there's a prevalence of what some might label as spoiled brats or "iPad kids," a trend that's evidently detrimental to their well-being. In response, parents rightfully intervene, and when they do, the teens might perceive it as incessant nagging.
Is this perception accurate? Certainly not.
It's my hope that the upcoming generations, whether it's Gen Z, Generation Alpha, or any other designation, will come to appreciate the efforts of their parents. While there may be instances where parents are overly strict or even abusive, those situations warrant seeking help. Yet, for those who experience their parents as nagging due to their mischievous behavior, it's crucial to recognize that the intention is to steer them toward the right path. Parents, in these instances, are motivated by a desire for their children to develop into responsible individuals rather than becoming aimless and unproductive.
