Have you ever felt you're not good enough?
Then you're not alone.
My name is Alexandra Winter, and I write stories based on my experiences.
Growing up with a controlling father, he commented on everything. How people dressed, talked, parked their cars, sat, how dumb they seemed, that they were too fat, or too thin, how their handshake wasn't sturdy enough. There was a rule and an opinion on everything. And I tried to follow them, which was impossible.
Have you ever done your best to make a parent, stepparent, boyfriend happy? Only to be told it wasn't good enough?
When I was 21 years old, I stopped all contact with my father for 7 years. It gave me room to begin the journey to find my own identity. I asked myself over and over; why does he have this power over me? Why does my pulse increase when I think about what he would be upset by? Is this his rule or mine?
I talked to a professional coach, read up on the subject.
Today, I'm in therapy with my father. It shows me that his struggles and demons aren't mine. They never were.
Ever been told that your best isn't good enough?
I've met more people than I could imagine who's felt that they're not good enough. It's breaking my heart to hear their stories of loved ones who have critiqued their appearance, behavior, made fun of them, broken their spirits.
I am now 33 years old and growing my self-worth proves to take more work, and time than days passing. It's not easy to rewire your brain to know that "I am good enough." But I'm getting there. I hope you are too.
A part of my process is to share my stories.
I hope you'll share yours too, because it helps to know we're not alone in feeling this way, and that there is a way out of it.
- Oslo, Norway
- JoinedJune 6, 2016