NarutoBaka

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NarutoBaka

Okay, but genuine question. What do you do if your "friend" basically tells you that your birthday is insignificant and for you to stop being selfish? Backstory behind it ↓
          
          
          My brother moved out of the house (he was staying with my family and I due to being kicked out of his apartment. He's been married for almost a year, his wife was staying with us as well.) yesterday and today they were moving the rest of their stuff into their house. They needed our help because the guys who were originally supposed to help them, bailed on them due to personal problems. So, my sister, mom and I had to help them. I was sad because today we were going to get birthday decorations and my cake mix and just things for my birthday -- I was of course dragged along because I had to help them move. So, before we left, I sent my friend a message basically saying how I was sad. Her response was "you need to stop being so selfish, you can celebrate your birthday any time." And of course I was hurt, the past few months she's been nothing but rude and mean to me. I can't get mad about it because then she'd get mad about me being mad and blame it on me. Idk how to respond to being called selfish about wanting to have a decent birthday. It would be a different story if this was a new situation with my brother -- which it isn't, they got married in a nursing home because they didn't want to wait a few months longer. They rented an expensive apartment and all throughout their marriage (and I'm hoping up until now) they've been hardheaded and ignoring advice from my parents. It's a cycle of not being able to pay rent on time. It's been going on since May 2019. So yeah, no one will respond to this but if you were in my shoes, what would you do about a friend like that? And my birthday is tomorrow, so this has been going on for almost 2 days and she just sent me that message today. 

NarutoBaka

Thanks guys, but now she just called me violent and how I'm mean and I'm this and that. I would copy & paste the text message here but I'm already in a mood and it'd just upset me even more :/ but thanks for your advice, guys. I'm going to cut her out of my life. 
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Babykittycat135

Uh, they shouldn’t be considered a friend if they treat you that way. I say avoid putting yourself alone with them and talk to ur fam about ur bday stuff
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b_rogue

Also, maybe consider seeing a therapist or your school counselor. The only time they’ll repeat what you’ve talked about is if they believe you’re at risk for harming yourself or others. Again, I’m so sorry this has happened to you, but things will get better in the end, trust me. And happy early birthday! 
            
            And if you need to talk to anyone about anything, feel free to message me or someone you trust like a friend or trusted adult.  
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NarutoBaka

Ok, I don't know if anyone else feels the way I do but Frozen 2 made me feel really depressed. 

b_rogue

@OliviasSunsshine well at least you’re acknowledging that. That’s the first step in growing up and maturing, being able to accept and acknowledge that you have to work on something. And you are very welcome. 
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NarutoBaka

@b_rogue Okay, thank you. I do agree I have some growing up to do because I've been avoiding it and in ways, I've avoided maturing mentally.
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b_rogue

@OliviasSunsshine aw, I’m sorry that it made you feel that way. I can totally understand where you’re coming from. To be honest, the thought of being an adult and trying to make it and being the real world terrifies me. It scares me so much I desperately don’t want to fail. But my dad has told me that in order to succeed, you have to fail, whether it’s now or later. And if you think about it, Frozen (the first one) wasn’t all super happy and magical either. It dealt with issues that people face a lot. Elsa has anxiety and is very insecure and terrified of herself. I’m sorry it made you depressed, but to look on some kind of bright side, that means that you can relate. In my opinion, the best (movies, books, songs, etc.) are the ones that you can relate to the most. Frozen 2 dealt with stuff that you’re personally going through, but that doesn’t mean that you’re alone in that feeling. I know that there are others who feel the same or going through something similar. And I don’t really like change at first, but once I can find something to keep my mind off of everything, I start to see the good side. Take this as a sign. Whatever happens, you are going to be okay. I’m sorry that you’ve been feeling alone, I can understand, but you aren’t alone. There are people who feel the same way, maybe even more so than you. This just means that you have some growing up to do yourself, no matter how scary. Everyone does their own type of “transformation”. And if you need to talk, especially about growing up and feeling alone, feel free to pm me, I’ll listen. 
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