There are some things we’re just not supposed to talk about. Sometimes, that’s for the best; we can probably all agree that it’s unadvisable to delve into religion at the Thanksgiving dinner table or politics at a job interview, for instance. But when the thing we’re not supposed to talk about has shaped all our everyday interactions, when it has changed the way we move through the world, when it is an integral part of our ongoing personal story, then keeping it a secret can be a heavy burden. And sometimes all we need to be free of that burden is an invitation. Watch Secret Lives of Americans on Pivot or download the series on iTunes.