There are two kinds of people in this life: Those who walk into a room and say, "Well, here I am!" And those who walk in and say, "Ahh, there you are."
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Contents
Introduction: How to Get Anything You Want from Anybody (Well, at Least Have the Best Crack at It!) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xi
Part One: How to Intrigue Everyone Without Saying a Word: You Only Have Ten Seconds to Show You're a Somebody . . . . . 1
1 How to Make Your Smile Magically Different. . . . . . . . . 5 2 How to Strike Ever yone as Intelligent and Insightful by Using Your Eyes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 3 How to Use Your Eyes to Make Someone Fall in Love with You . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 4 How to Look Like a Big Winner W herever You Go. . . . 17 5 How to Win Their Heart by Responding to Their "Inner Infant" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 6 How to Make Someone Feel Like an Old Friend at Once . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 7 How to Come Across as 100 Percent Credible to Ever yone . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 8 How to Read People Like You Have ESP . . . . . . . . . . . 35 9 How to Make Sure You Don't Miss a Single Beat . . . . . 39
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Part Two: How to Know What to Say After You Say "Hi" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43
10 How to Start Great Small Talk. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 11 How to Sound Like You've Got a Super Personality (No Matter W hat You're Saying!) . . . . . . 51 12 How to Make People Want to Start a Conversation with You . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56 13 How to Meet the People You Want to Meet . . . . . . . . . 59 14 How to Break into a Tight Crowd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 15 How to Make "W here Are You From?" Sound Exciting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63 16 How to Come Out a Winner Ever y Time They Ask, "And W hat Do You Do?" . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 17 How to Introduce People Like the Host(ess) with the Most(est) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 18 How to Resuscitate a Dying Conversation . . . . . . . . . . 73 19 How to Enthrall 'Em with Your Choice of Topic-Them! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 76 20 How to Never Need to Wonder, "W hat Do I Say Next?" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 78 21 How to Get 'Em Happily Chatting (So You Can Slip Away if You Want To!) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 82 22 How to Come Across as a Positive Person . . . . . . . . . . 87 23 How to Always Have Something Interesting to Say . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89
Part Three: How to Talk Like a VIP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93
24 How to Find Out W hat They Do (Without Even Asking!) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 25 How to Know W hat to Say W hen They Ask, "W hat Do You Do?" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 98 26 How to Sound Even Smarter Than You Are . . . . . . . . 103
27 How to Not Sound Anxious (Let Them Discover Your Similarity) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107 28 How to Be a "You-Firstie" to Gain Their Respect and Affection . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 110 29 How to Make Them Feel You "Don't Smile at Just Anybody" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 30 How to Avoid Sounding Like a Jerk. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 31 How to Use Motivational Speakers' Techniques to Enhance Your Conversation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 32 How to Banter Like the Big Shots Do (Big Winners Tell It Like It Is) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127 33 How to Avoid the World's Worst Conversational Habit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 34 How to Give Them the Bad News (and Have Them Like You All the More) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 35 How to Respond W hen You Don't Want to Answer (and Wish They'd Shut the Heck Up) . . . . . 134 36 How to Talk to a Celebrity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 136 37 How to Make Them Want to Thank You . . . . . . . . . 140
