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It's everywhere in our society. In advertisements, splashed on billboards, in the films we watch, in the books we read.

As a grey asexual, the steamy connotations I'm submitted to on a daily basis can seem overwhelming. Sex sells, and it's used to persuade us to buy everything, from perfume to toilet tissue. Legal rules applied to the media limit how explicit sex can be in advertising, which helps to a certain extent. Before the watershed at 9pm I know I'm at least not going to see bare bodies flashed on my TV screen. After 9pm, sex and violence abound in adult entertainment.

Sex and violence have always been considered entertaining, just look at the ancient Roman gladiator battles and the brothels in Pompeii.

I'm certainly not against a bit of dramatised violence myself, I enjoy video games like Assassin's Creed, Uncharted and Tomb Raider, and I will admit that blasting your way through pixellated enemies with a shotgun is cathartic. (The guillotine gun in Assassin's Creed Unity brings much relief to a stressful mood. An axe and canon combined is the best of both worlds.)

The horror in the first Tomb Raider reboot gets particularly graphic, with human cadavers hanging from meat hooks, and Lara Croft trudging through the squishy remains of dead bodies that have been ground up as food for the supernatural Oni creatur...

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The horror in the first Tomb Raider reboot gets particularly graphic, with human cadavers hanging from meat hooks, and Lara Croft trudging through the squishy remains of dead bodies that have been ground up as food for the supernatural Oni creatures from Japanese mythology.

So yeah, I'm not too squeamish, as you can see, although I'm definitely not a fan of horror like Silent Hill or gorefests like the Saw movies and such.

Sex, on the otherhand, makes me feel uncomfortable when it gets graphic onscreen. I love the steamy scenes in Poldark where they 'fade to black' before any nudity occurs. (Although, arguably, there are plenty of shirtless scenes for Ross that are totally unnecessary but please the avid female fanbase.)

I don't even mind romantic depictions of sex on screen

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I don't even mind romantic depictions of sex on screen. I'm not against a bit of steamy romance.

As long as it has a purpose.

What I really dislike are sex scenes (and violence) that are used just for titillation. If it doesn't further the plot, show emotion, or convey meaning to the audience, does it really need to be there? If I wanted sexual gratification I'd watch porn.

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