Introverts don't speak to people because they think they are better than everyone else.
Yes, some (ignorant) people actually believe that. I'm pretty sure people have thought it about me. (They might not be wrong. When taking an MBTI test one question said "do you think you are better than others?" I clicked yes. That's purely based on my incredibly low opinion of humanity. I have a low opinion of myself and an even lower opinion of most everyone else.) ((Not joking))
You might think introverts are really serious killjoys who have no sense of humour. You'd be wrong. We laugh, we joke, we smile, just probably quieter than most. We aren't super serious snobs who won't join in with a joke because it's beneath us.
Whether you're an introvert or extrovert seemingly has a large influence on how your words and actions are perceived. I have passed a joke before that no one laughed at, yet an extrovert makes the exact same pun and it's suddenly hilarious. If it's sarcasm then it's just assumed I'm being serious and I actually mean it.
Introverts don't have feelings.
Yep, another mistaken judgement. Just because we don't outwardly show an emotion, doesn't mean we don't feel it. We are not robots. We can find something funny without laughing (LOL - who ever actually laughs when they write lol?) or be crying inside without crying actual tears. That might seem really confusing to some. How on earth can you tell what they are feeling if you can't see it?
Well, use your imagination, maybe? Put yourself in someone elses shoes? Imagine how you'd feel in their situation?
If you take the time to observe, it's probably that we *are* showing our feelings but you've overlooked it, or aren't familiar with our show of emotion because it differs from your own. Hardly anyone has a completely emotionless face like a mannequin. It's all there in the eyes, eyebrows, mouth. In body language, or tone of voice, or the actual words.
"I don't like parties."
"Of course you do, you're just not trying."
Oh yes, I was obviously wrong, I don't know myself at all. If I try harder it will surely be fun, fun, fun.
Introverts are frigid prudes who don't know how to open their legs.
And you, sir/madam, are an imbecile.
Seriously, though, just because I am not overtly sexual doesn't mean I am totally against sex (well, as previously said, I'm grey ace, so what I feel about sex is a different kettle of fish but I'm speaking for non-asexual introverts here).
Some introverts might enjoy casual sex, some introverts might enjoy loving sex. Some only want sex after a serious relationship has developed, others are happy with sex outside a relationship. We aren't all the same. People who want sex within serious relationships are not prudes. They can enjoy sex just as much as anyone else, they just want it with one person who they love and who loves them. This doesn't make them frigid. It doesn't mean they dislike sex and look down on others with different sexual tastes. There will be introverts out there who enjoy BDSM, sometimes within a loving relationship and sometimes out of it. You have no idea what sexual activity someone likes, or how often, unless they specifically tell you. Don't judge.
I had a friend who thought she couldn't make a sexual joke in my presence or talk about her own sexual activity with me because she assumed I was a bit prudish. Purely based on my introverted behaviour and because I never talked about sex or relationships. For all she knew, I could have been merrily sleeping my way through every man I met but because I didn't talk about it, she assumed I did not approve.
If you're not sure about how someone feels about sex topics, ask them politely. "Is it ok if I mention my sex life or would that make you uncomfortable? It's totally ok if you'd rather we not talk about it." Is that so hard?
We may not talk much, we may not overtly reveal our feelings or discuss certain topics but that doesn't mean we are emotionless, sexless snobs. And if we aren't having sex, what goddamn business of that is yours? What I do in bed is my concern. (Personally I like to read and sleep in bed but each to their own.)
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