I'm not exactly qualified to lecture on romantic relationships. I can count on 2 fingers the number of people who have ever expressed an attraction to me. (I've known girls who got 2 proposals every week, or 5 in one night). I was 22 when I had my first kiss, whereas my school classmates were kissed at 13 and lost their virginity not much later.
But I do know what it's like being an introvert struggling to communicate with someone you like.
When I see people flirting it seems to me mostly something like this:
There's a whole language to flirting. Many languages, even. If you aren't fluent in this art, it can feel very confusing. There's verbal communication, such as paying compliments or laughing at jokes. There's body language, like gently touching your crush's arm or hand. Or brushing your hair behind your ear to highlight your face, smoothing down your clothes to highlight your body.
Different people flirt in different ways and sometimes it's easy to be oblivious to their flirting, or be way too aware of it and feel very awkward.
It's not easy to respond to flirting either. How do we react? Being shy, I often turn away, tense up, avoid eye contact - completely the opposite of what I *want* to be doing. That kind of behaviour implies you aren't interested, and the person flirting with you gets the wrong idea.
Some of my own efforts to flirt have been disastrous. In my head, I hope I look encouraging. Something like:
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